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I meet a girl at church and we've been dating for a few months. She's literally a debt free virgin with no tattoos. She can cook. She's very nice. She likes me a lot. She wants to have kids, is good with kids, and would like to stay at home taking care of them, at least for their youngest years. She's open to homeschooling. She says she's not cut out for a career and doesn't understand why women try to prioritize them. That said, she is smart and has a good job and can take care of herself responsibly. Her parents are very well off. She respects men and men's roles, and believes in the biblical arrangement of the woman being subordinate to the man. She is very emotionally aware, even of her own flaws and biases, and she's communicates well about it. We have many overlapping media interests when it comes to nerdy stuff, but she shares my view that it's cringey to obsess too much over as an adult, and that most new stuff is pretty bad and/or degenerate. She is willing to stand by her own perspective, (which is always reasonable), even when it puts her at odds with the typical consensus, even of a female social group. She thinks I am funny and she is encouraging. We worked together on a minor construction project and worked well as a team.

However, I simply don't long to be with her. She's not my type physically. We get along well personality wise, but I find nothing especially enchanting about her presence. She doesn't light up my day. She doesn't inspire me. I don't miss her when we're apart.

I also haven't revealed my power level. She's on board with typical un-PC ideas like "It's shitty when they try to inject diversity into everything", and she has some based biblical takes. But I haven't tested her any further than that, such as with opinions like "We don't need a border wall when a couple pickup trucks with mounted machine guns would do the trick."

She ticks so many boxes on paper that I feel it'd be crazy to pull away. But I'm just not feeling anything. I can tell she's falling for me a lot more than I'm falling for her. I worry that if I can't love her, then who can I love? How am I going to find anyone else like this? And if I did, would I feel the same? Have I been alone too long to form a real relationship? Or have I been alone too long to see the specialness of a relationship when I find one?

I promise that ConPro is not the only place I'm looking to for advice. But I do want to hear what you have to say. Thanks, bros.
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WeedleTLiar on scored.co
1 year ago 6 points (+0 / -0 / +6Score on mirror ) 1 child
>If you aren’t attracted to her at all for whatever reason… only you can decide that.

If he wasn't, why are they together now? He must at least enjoy spending time together or they'd have never hit it off.
Crockett on scored.co
1 year ago 4 points (+0 / -0 / +4Score on mirror ) 2 children
>If he wasn't, why are they together now?

We are in a church small group together so I got to know her a bit before considering anything romantic. Also, she asked me out first. I wasn't attracted enough to make a move, but I knew she had enough to offer to say yes.
ApexVeritas on scored.co
1 year ago 9 points (+0 / -0 / +9Score on mirror ) 2 children
Apologies for being blunt, but: is she fat? What exactly is wrong with her appearance that you're not physically attracted to her? With all of her positive traits you listed, most guys would be fine if she was at least a step above hideous, because she sounds awesome.
GoldenInnosStatue on scored.co
1 year ago 9 points (+0 / -0 / +9Score on mirror )
>is she fat?

asking the important questions
Crockett on scored.co
1 year ago 4 points (+0 / -0 / +4Score on mirror ) 3 children
She's not fat exactly, but she's not small. Her body is more shapeless and saggy, despite still being in her 20s. She has a very weak chin, which is probably the most significant factor of her face. The rest of her face isn't very feminine. Her face could kind of pass for that of a British man. Her hair is wavy and a bit frizzled, which is not my thing. She is tall for a woman, just short of my height, which is exactly what I prefer. Her head looks kind of small on her body, especially when she puts her hair up. But sometimes when her hair has more volume and is more asymmetrical, I like it.
ScallionPancake on scored.co
1 year ago 9 points (+0 / -0 / +9Score on mirror )
So is it anything that can be fixed if you two just get fit?

Go to the gym, take her with you. Go hiking. Etc.


Anyone can have a good looking body when they get off goyslop and get active.
GoldenInnosStatue on scored.co
1 year ago 1 point (+0 / -0 / +1Score on mirror ) 4 children
>She has a very weak chin, which is probably the most significant factor of her face. The rest of her face isn't very feminine. Her face could kind of pass for that of a British man

are you sure "she" isn't a tranny?
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Crockett on scored.co
1 year ago 0 points (+0 / -0 )
Lol. Thanks for the concern, but that's not it.
HEXEN on scored.co
1 year ago 0 points (+0 / -0 ) 1 child
lol brutal man. Come on now
TakenusernameA on scored.co
1 year ago 0 points (+0 / -0 ) 1 child
Worse, I think she is a *British* woman.
ApexVeritas on scored.co
1 year ago 0 points (+0 / -0 )
Well, looks can be drastically improved in everyone by eating right, exercising, and getting fit. Losing weight drastically changes the face, too. If it's something worth pursuing, only you can be the judge of that.


In any case, I will say that physical attraction is a key component to any healthy marriage. Before I was redpilled, I was in a relationship with a woman who didn't take care of herself. I thought I could overlook it, but I was wrong. On the other side, though, in a healthy marriage, many men grow to love their spouse in spite of their physical flaws, especially as they provide them children and a loving home.


If it's worth pursuing (for you), ask her if she'd be willing to get healthy with/for you. No need to pussyfoot around the subject, just be gentle. Most good women, if they're dedicating themselves to a man, will strive to be what the man needs of them.
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