Just fell out of a relationship with the woman I thought I was going to marry. It took so much time and energy and luck to even get in the situation I was in. I'm only 25 but that feeling of lost progress and momentum is really hurting.
How do you stop yourself from being demoralised and black pilled and keep at it?
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steele2 on scored.co
9 hours ago12 points(+0/-0/+12Score on mirror)1 child
Focus instead on the thrill of being a relentless, fearless hunter.
Always be prepared to meet someone. Always dress to impress before you leave the house. Always keep your house clean and bed made. Always carry a pen and paper to write down your number.
Seize every opportunity.
Hit on every cute girl you see, even if it's just with a smile or a hello.
Hit on every cute checkout chick: they'll often ask, "How are you?" or "Got any plans for the weekend?" or something similar. If not, you can ask them, making it seem like small-talk.
Know all the great dating spots in your local area such as outdoor cinema in the park, playhouses that review well, hiking trails, bike trails to nice parks or the beach, dog parks, wineries, scenic lookouts, ghost tours, historic tours, etc.
Pro-tip: Some of the small playhouses are fantastic, if you've never been. Good for a third date if you're shy about plays not being a traditional masculine activity. Good, low budget theater is amazing, the fewer the props, the better. If you've never been then I hope you find the best kind of grungy minimalist play because, when done well, it's immersive and powerful in a way that TV and cinema can never match.
Do your research: visit all of these places to see if they'd make a good venue for a date.
Let her know you're planning a few possible things [on the weekend or if she asks if you've been busy] such as walking your dog [name your dog] or thinking of going for a hike [name the park] or checking out the evening outdoor cinema in the park: subtly imply you're going alone or, "it's just me and my dog".
She'll mention her boyfriend if she's not interested. If she says, "nothing" then she might just be shy.
If she says, "I haven't planned anything - just me and my dog [dog's name]" or "seeing a film with a friend" - then that's your invitation to strike: ask about her dog [breed and name] and if she knows any good dog parks in the area. Ask if she's been to local outdoor cinema in the park or the local playhouse that you've already vetted.
Carry a fake shopping list and write your mobile number on the back. Make eye contact, smile and give her your number as you leave.
Don't worry about burning bridges or feeling embarrassed to visit that store afterwards because you might see there. All you need to do is acknowledge her with a smile and never worry about it again.
My point is always be prepared, groomed and ready to make the most out of every opportunity. When you speak, ensure everything you say has the opportunity to open doors.
Feel happy about every attempt that yields no results because that was still on opportunity seized and a step towards finding someone special next time.
Dating is awesome because it's a series of gambles where you have nothing to lose, so every opportunity is worth seizing.
Instead of feeling demoralized, focus on the thrill of the hunt.
Always be prepared to meet someone. Always dress to impress before you leave the house. Always keep your house clean and bed made. Always carry a pen and paper to write down your number.
Seize every opportunity.
Hit on every cute girl you see, even if it's just with a smile or a hello.
Hit on every cute checkout chick: they'll often ask, "How are you?" or "Got any plans for the weekend?" or something similar. If not, you can ask them, making it seem like small-talk.
Know all the great dating spots in your local area such as outdoor cinema in the park, playhouses that review well, hiking trails, bike trails to nice parks or the beach, dog parks, wineries, scenic lookouts, ghost tours, historic tours, etc.
Pro-tip: Some of the small playhouses are fantastic, if you've never been. Good for a third date if you're shy about plays not being a traditional masculine activity. Good, low budget theater is amazing, the fewer the props, the better. If you've never been then I hope you find the best kind of grungy minimalist play because, when done well, it's immersive and powerful in a way that TV and cinema can never match.
Do your research: visit all of these places to see if they'd make a good venue for a date.
Let her know you're planning a few possible things [on the weekend or if she asks if you've been busy] such as walking your dog [name your dog] or thinking of going for a hike [name the park] or checking out the evening outdoor cinema in the park: subtly imply you're going alone or, "it's just me and my dog".
She'll mention her boyfriend if she's not interested. If she says, "nothing" then she might just be shy.
If she says, "I haven't planned anything - just me and my dog [dog's name]" or "seeing a film with a friend" - then that's your invitation to strike: ask about her dog [breed and name] and if she knows any good dog parks in the area. Ask if she's been to local outdoor cinema in the park or the local playhouse that you've already vetted.
Carry a fake shopping list and write your mobile number on the back. Make eye contact, smile and give her your number as you leave.
Don't worry about burning bridges or feeling embarrassed to visit that store afterwards because you might see there. All you need to do is acknowledge her with a smile and never worry about it again.
My point is always be prepared, groomed and ready to make the most out of every opportunity. When you speak, ensure everything you say has the opportunity to open doors.
Feel happy about every attempt that yields no results because that was still on opportunity seized and a step towards finding someone special next time.
Dating is awesome because it's a series of gambles where you have nothing to lose, so every opportunity is worth seizing.
Instead of feeling demoralized, focus on the thrill of the hunt.