The frequent grocery shopper (2-4 times a week) = Hunter-gatherer man. Likely high T, not simp-like, very adaptable to his environment. Likes his grocery food fresh just like if he was killing an animal for a fresh meal.
The once a week grocery shopper = Hunter-gatherer in transition man. Average T, somewhat simp-like, somewhat adaptable to his environment. Likes some of his food fresh but freezes some things and doesn't mind trading convenience for freshness.
The once a month mega grocery shopper = The women and domesticated men. These are the types to freeze everything, including bread, because they want to frequent the grocery store as little as possible. They say it's to save money at Costco but it's really because they feel the need to be incredibly stocked up on food because they aren't a hunter-gatherer. This is the female-coded style of grocery shopping. Men who shop like this have given over control of the food to their woman or they have low T, are simpy and somewhat like a woman themselves.
Poser gardeners bought their tomato plants from Lowes for $5 per plant and usually can't even keep them watered and alive until a tomato is ripe.
Your mom sounds awesome. I think gardening is good for her health and peace of mind. I think it connects you with Holy Spirit. Maybe you can buy your mother a canning system or a dehydrating machine so she can store more of her veggies and crop through winter. Ideas for a good gift.
I think it would be a hot date just to work with a woman in a garden. That sounds way better than taking a woman out to a restaurant or a club. A woman who will work in a garden with me is wife material and a great way to pair bond. If you are looking for a date or a wife check out a community garden in town somewhere and see if you find any single women there and garden with them (pulls weeds, till the soil, plant new items, harvest ripe veggies, etc.). Women who are not afraid to touch dirt or pull weeds usually are not crazy wacko democrats. Working in the garden sort of grounds you from all the noise (propaganda, electro-magnetic pollution frying our brains, the noise of a fallen world).
In any case, those tomatoes sound delicious. I especially love tomatoes myself and they might be the favorite items that come out of my garden. I don't claim mine to be the best, though.
So, my mom married her high-school sweetheart. They met when they were both 16yo and became bf/gf. I think this is the man my mom lost her virginity to or close to. They got married at 18yos. I think they stayed together (in the marriage) for 7 years or so. The man got heavily into cocaine (the 70s, was in construction, you know...) and he ended up meeting another woman into cocaine. Now ironically, this woman was a PhD candidate in philosophy and incredibly smart. Anyway, he was cheating on my mom with this new girl and doing cocaine together... He eventually came clean to my mom about what was going on as my mom started to suspect things. They divorced. My mom met my dad and they had me (only me). They were together for 20 years but the relationship failed.
My mom's high school sweetheart married his cocaine girl and they lived together for a time but she ended up dying from doing too much cocaine. This caused the guy to clean-up and never touch the substance again. He never got with another woman after that.
When my mom and my dad broke-up, my mom got in contact with her first husband, the ex-cocaine guy whose gf died from cocaine. They're now back together and he's the gardener I spoke of. Him and my mom make a WAY better couple together. They compliment each-other way better than my dad and my mom. I sometimes feel like everything that transpired was meant to be just so I could be born because if it didn't happen the way it did, then I wouldn't be born but clearly my mom was meant to be with this guy not my dad so my dad was just there to create me... (I inherited all the philosophy PhD woman's books and they're really awesome books. She was "based" for sure.)
I don't talk to my actual father anymore. He went full leftist and told me he hopes the White race dies out because "we had our time" and now it's time for the other races. We got into too many arguments and he disrespected me one too many times so I put him in his place and he cut communication, which I was happy with, so we don't talk anymore.
The Bible says to honor our parents. I think that means even with all their flaws.
Charles Lawson had a sermon about how it isn't always easy to love. We have people in our lives who don't make it easy for us to love them.
Stefan Molyneux does a lot of philosophical examination of people's relationships with their parents and his recommendation is usually to cut negative parents out of your life if they are a drain or have negative impact and you've already given genuine effort to reconcile things. I think he promotes abandonment of parents a bit too much to the extreme but it's a topic of most of his shows.
Another very smart guy i know basically cut his dad out of his life or at least mostly. Actually his dad didn't seem to really want to be part of his life or his grandchildren's life so it wasn't a one way separation. But it seems to work well to not keep negative damaged people in your life.
You didn't go into much detail why exactly the relationship between your mother and father failed. But it's none of my business and you already shared enough. Have a good day.
My mom and my father split up because my dad accomplished very little in his life. At first, this didn't matter but my dad encouraged my mom to go to back to university and get a high paying job (so he didn't need to) and my mom did. Then she realized my dad was a loser, they fought, my mom started acting like the driver in the relationship which caused everything to dissolve. I don't blame my mom or my dad entirely. Both contributed. My dad was too much of a lazy simp to "man-up" and take control of the relationship such that he wanted my mom to work in place of him and by doing so my mom gained too much power/confidence/feminist inclinations which led to her feeling better than my dad (understandable though) and this caused conflict. My dad is more to blame but also I will excuse my dad because he's an NPC and was just following what the propaganda told him to do and this propaganda in atrocious for relationships. My father doesn't understand any of what I just said, he lacks the IQ... and unfortunately, this is probably true of most men in society which is why we have so many problems.