The frequent grocery shopper (2-4 times a week) = Hunter-gatherer man. Likely high T, not simp-like, very adaptable to his environment. Likes his grocery food fresh just like if he was killing an animal for a fresh meal.
The once a week grocery shopper = Hunter-gatherer in transition man. Average T, somewhat simp-like, somewhat adaptable to his environment. Likes some of his food fresh but freezes some things and doesn't mind trading convenience for freshness.
The once a month mega grocery shopper = The women and domesticated men. These are the types to freeze everything, including bread, because they want to frequent the grocery store as little as possible. They say it's to save money at Costco but it's really because they feel the need to be incredibly stocked up on food because they aren't a hunter-gatherer. This is the female-coded style of grocery shopping. Men who shop like this have given over control of the food to their woman or they have low T, are simpy and somewhat like a woman themselves.
The Bible says to honor our parents. I think that means even with all their flaws.
Charles Lawson had a sermon about how it isn't always easy to love. We have people in our lives who don't make it easy for us to love them.
Stefan Molyneux does a lot of philosophical examination of people's relationships with their parents and his recommendation is usually to cut negative parents out of your life if they are a drain or have negative impact and you've already given genuine effort to reconcile things. I think he promotes abandonment of parents a bit too much to the extreme but it's a topic of most of his shows.
Another very smart guy i know basically cut his dad out of his life or at least mostly. Actually his dad didn't seem to really want to be part of his life or his grandchildren's life so it wasn't a one way separation. But it seems to work well to not keep negative damaged people in your life.
You didn't go into much detail why exactly the relationship between your mother and father failed. But it's none of my business and you already shared enough. Have a good day.
My mom and my father split up because my dad accomplished very little in his life. At first, this didn't matter but my dad encouraged my mom to go to back to university and get a high paying job (so he didn't need to) and my mom did. Then she realized my dad was a loser, they fought, my mom started acting like the driver in the relationship which caused everything to dissolve. I don't blame my mom or my dad entirely. Both contributed. My dad was too much of a lazy simp to "man-up" and take control of the relationship such that he wanted my mom to work in place of him and by doing so my mom gained too much power/confidence/feminist inclinations which led to her feeling better than my dad (understandable though) and this caused conflict. My dad is more to blame but also I will excuse my dad because he's an NPC and was just following what the propaganda told him to do and this propaganda in atrocious for relationships. My father doesn't understand any of what I just said, he lacks the IQ... and unfortunately, this is probably true of most men in society which is why we have so many problems.