Keep in mind I’m a married adult completely independent of my parents.
Anyway, I stopped by their house today and they both started pestering me about recent socio-political and religious view changes my husband and I have had since we got married.
They’re upset we’ve gone more traditional (Anglican) and think we’re “going down the wrong path” (they’re boomer-brained evangelicals who couldn’t care less about tradition or Church authority). They think my husband is a “tyrant” (he leads and I follow, the way it should be). They basically shot down every explanation I had for them about my current views of the church, polity, sacraments, etc.
Then the jews came up.
Now, I’m not exactly *quiet* about (((them))) but I don’t go out of my way to talk about them either. Just a remark here or there. Well, they think I have “bitterness and hate” in my heart. They think my views on them are unfounded. They think I’m not educated about the situation.
Not really sure what to do about this. I stormed out before I said anything I would’ve regretted. My mom already apologized via text. But I’m obviously really upset and distraught about how they’re handling my rapid shift toward traditional values.
Have you guys been in this situation before? How in the world do I handle this? How do I not disappoint my own parents?
Another thing, I saw that your husband is in Seminary. I hope you both are prepared for him never finding a church to pastor and/or his eventual dox. If you both have been open to others on the JQ and race, someone will be waiting to tear him down. Could even be your parents. Look at SuperLutheran from the GodCast. You can find his dox if you're so inclined. Or even that mixed race Anglican guy who got in big trouble recently. I'm not trying to desuade him from ministry but the majority of the "church" is hostile to the truth. I was in Seminary but I couldn't even convince people not to mutilate their sons with the Bible and other evidence. I'd start my own church but I'm not sure how that'd go in the rural NE, that may be the route your husband has to go but I'm not certain Anglicanism is friendly towards that.
Fr. Calvin Robinson was apparently defrocked by the bishop without any sort of conversation with him. I believe he’s still helping out at the church though. We’ll see what happens with him.
Overall, we know we need to keep quiet about *a lot* of things because of this pursuit of Holy Orders. But I’ll keep in mind that everyone is listening and you never know what they’ll do with what they hear, no matter how innocuous you think it is.
Hold on to that group, I'd give anything to have that in my life right now. There are days I consider doxing myself just to have the hope I can find some brothers and sisters who have two brain cells to rub together.