Keep in mind I’m a married adult completely independent of my parents.
Anyway, I stopped by their house today and they both started pestering me about recent socio-political and religious view changes my husband and I have had since we got married.
They’re upset we’ve gone more traditional (Anglican) and think we’re “going down the wrong path” (they’re boomer-brained evangelicals who couldn’t care less about tradition or Church authority). They think my husband is a “tyrant” (he leads and I follow, the way it should be). They basically shot down every explanation I had for them about my current views of the church, polity, sacraments, etc.
Then the jews came up.
Now, I’m not exactly *quiet* about (((them))) but I don’t go out of my way to talk about them either. Just a remark here or there. Well, they think I have “bitterness and hate” in my heart. They think my views on them are unfounded. They think I’m not educated about the situation.
Not really sure what to do about this. I stormed out before I said anything I would’ve regretted. My mom already apologized via text. But I’m obviously really upset and distraught about how they’re handling my rapid shift toward traditional values.
Have you guys been in this situation before? How in the world do I handle this? How do I not disappoint my own parents?
"Honour" is not the same as "please".
You honour your parents by serving God, not their idea of God. We can't know His reasons, but it could well be that you are needed to help them realize that they're worshipping idols.
Stay polite but stay firm. There's no arguing matters of faith, they aren't rational. If you truly beleive, that Truth is more important even than family. Continue to be the dutiful daughter and don't move an inch just to appease them.
If they keep pushing you, shrug them off; "That's nice, I'm going to clear the table".