Keep in mind I’m a married adult completely independent of my parents.
Anyway, I stopped by their house today and they both started pestering me about recent socio-political and religious view changes my husband and I have had since we got married.
They’re upset we’ve gone more traditional (Anglican) and think we’re “going down the wrong path” (they’re boomer-brained evangelicals who couldn’t care less about tradition or Church authority). They think my husband is a “tyrant” (he leads and I follow, the way it should be). They basically shot down every explanation I had for them about my current views of the church, polity, sacraments, etc.
Then the jews came up.
Now, I’m not exactly *quiet* about (((them))) but I don’t go out of my way to talk about them either. Just a remark here or there. Well, they think I have “bitterness and hate” in my heart. They think my views on them are unfounded. They think I’m not educated about the situation.
Not really sure what to do about this. I stormed out before I said anything I would’ve regretted. My mom already apologized via text. But I’m obviously really upset and distraught about how they’re handling my rapid shift toward traditional values.
Have you guys been in this situation before? How in the world do I handle this? How do I not disappoint my own parents?
Don't bother with that at all. If they are hellbent on going crazy, you cannot stop them.
> How in the world do I handle this?
Well, depends on how confrontational you want to be. Do you want to keep a superficial connection with them where you are trapped in perpetual small talk? I say it disparagingly, but that's an actual option. It keeps some degree of peace.
If you want to assert yourself, tell them that their views are ignorant, and if anyone has to lecture the other, it's you. Or tell them it's none of their business how you live, and especially given their liberal views, they should respect that.
If you want a moderate stance, ignore what they did and tell them about yourself and your family as you want. If they want to talk about jews, bring up facts casually "did you know 6 jewish companies own 96% of US media? Shouldn't that raise a question or two?" or "did you know that according to jews, Jesus is rotting in hell in excrements? Do you agree with them?" This is a more provocative stance, but it can cause change (for better or worse).
> They think my husband is a “tyrant” (he leads and I follow, the way it should be)
Ask them why they think that. If you follow him willingly, he is not a tyrant, but a leader.
Just be sure to trust his judgement and be smart about it, and do not follow him blindly out of principle. My parents had this problem, and it caused quite some problems due to my father.
It's important to distinguish "disappointing" from "dishonouring".
You honour your parents by being a person who validates their sacrifice. Not validate in their eyes but in God's eyes.
Imagine being one of Jesus' early followers and your parents are telling you that he's a heretic, a blasphemer, and the Church has condemned him. What did he say about that? Sometimes you need to leave you family in order to serve God.
They're more than welcome to join you, and there's no animosity, but your first loyalty should be to God, through which all things are possible.