How did you bring up your political views/involvement?
How did she react?
is it best to ease a girl into it or be brutally honest about your views from the beginning:
Also general advice on the beginning stages of a relationship are appreciated.
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MI7BZ3EW on scored.co
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Married almost 30 years now.
I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Things were a little different back in the 90s, but the fundamentals are not too different.
> politics
We are both adults and understand that politics is stupid. We both want is best for our kids, our church, and our friends and family, and that's all that really matters. Who we vote for isn't important. For the most part, she just votes however I vote, since I do all the research.
> react
To what?
> ease or be brutally honest about your views
What is most important to you is going to have to be important to her, and vice-versa, or you shouldn't get married. If you're not ready to sacrifice yourself on the altar to become one with your wife, and she's not ready to do the same, then you're not ready to be married.
> general advice on beginning stages of a relationship
I don't even know what this means.
This is how it works:
* Complete Strangers
* Acquaintances -- you meet her randomly or someone introduces you
* Friends -- you spend time together in neutral settings and get to know each other and rely on each other as friends.
* Dating / Courting -- the man makes his intentions clear and asks her out on social activities with the understanding that he is looking for a wife. She accepts with the understanding that she is looking for a husband. They feel each other out to see if they'd be a good fit and share similar goals.
* Engaged -- The man asks her to marry him. They announce to the world that they are going to get married soon, so that they are both off the courtship market. They spend a lot of time getting to know each other and their families and begin the transition to married life. In my church, engagements should last 1-3 months, tops. There's no reason to stretch it out.
* Married -- You finally move in together and start making babies full time.
I don't know what's confusing about that for this generation. I like to use the word "court" because what you young people call "dating" is something more akin to "whoring" when I was a kid. "Hook-ups" are ridiculously degenerate. They were back then, they are still today.
Regarding my top advice: You need to figure out what your top priorities are, and then put your best work into obtaining those things. Stop messing around with lesser goals.
Regarding how you get married: You become someone who the kind of girl you would want to marry would want to marry.
More serious advice:
* Get a job and save your money
* Learn how to properly groom yourself.
* Learn how to dress properly.
* Learn how to act properly.
* Learn how to speak properly.
* Make yourself right with God in every way possible.
* Don't waste your time with women who do not meet your standards as marriageable. They aren't worth your thoughts or attention. They probably shouldn't even be in your circle of friends.
I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Things were a little different back in the 90s, but the fundamentals are not too different.
> politics
We are both adults and understand that politics is stupid. We both want is best for our kids, our church, and our friends and family, and that's all that really matters. Who we vote for isn't important. For the most part, she just votes however I vote, since I do all the research.
> react
To what?
> ease or be brutally honest about your views
What is most important to you is going to have to be important to her, and vice-versa, or you shouldn't get married. If you're not ready to sacrifice yourself on the altar to become one with your wife, and she's not ready to do the same, then you're not ready to be married.
> general advice on beginning stages of a relationship
I don't even know what this means.
This is how it works:
* Complete Strangers
* Acquaintances -- you meet her randomly or someone introduces you
* Friends -- you spend time together in neutral settings and get to know each other and rely on each other as friends.
* Dating / Courting -- the man makes his intentions clear and asks her out on social activities with the understanding that he is looking for a wife. She accepts with the understanding that she is looking for a husband. They feel each other out to see if they'd be a good fit and share similar goals.
* Engaged -- The man asks her to marry him. They announce to the world that they are going to get married soon, so that they are both off the courtship market. They spend a lot of time getting to know each other and their families and begin the transition to married life. In my church, engagements should last 1-3 months, tops. There's no reason to stretch it out.
* Married -- You finally move in together and start making babies full time.
I don't know what's confusing about that for this generation. I like to use the word "court" because what you young people call "dating" is something more akin to "whoring" when I was a kid. "Hook-ups" are ridiculously degenerate. They were back then, they are still today.
Regarding my top advice: You need to figure out what your top priorities are, and then put your best work into obtaining those things. Stop messing around with lesser goals.
Regarding how you get married: You become someone who the kind of girl you would want to marry would want to marry.
More serious advice:
* Get a job and save your money
* Learn how to properly groom yourself.
* Learn how to dress properly.
* Learn how to act properly.
* Learn how to speak properly.
* Make yourself right with God in every way possible.
* Don't waste your time with women who do not meet your standards as marriageable. They aren't worth your thoughts or attention. They probably shouldn't even be in your circle of friends.