How did you bring up your political views/involvement?
How did she react?
is it best to ease a girl into it or be brutally honest about your views from the beginning:
Also general advice on the beginning stages of a relationship are appreciated.
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Xicsess on scored.co
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We've been together for a long time, I think it's important to note two things.
1. You're better off with foot in the door vs. door in the face if you have uncommon/unpopular political or social opinions.
2. Women are more socially motivated than men; throught processes more in the line of; "How will my actions and views be seen by those around me?" vs. "Is this objectively true?"
Once you become a social focus in the relationship, bringing up things/noticing becomes easier to have conversations about. Consider not making everything you notice about society / community negative.
As an example, "As much as I admire the bravery of early feminists, I think they really did the average woman a lot of harm by pushing them into the workforce and education. One, doubling the workforce seems to have devalued labor. So, in a way it's robbed us of the ability to have a single person working to support the family. It also framed marriage as an abusive slave like relationship, while considering the workplace objectively a good move. It baffles me a little bit that working with your family is slavery but working for a faceless corporation is freedom."
1. You're better off with foot in the door vs. door in the face if you have uncommon/unpopular political or social opinions.
2. Women are more socially motivated than men; throught processes more in the line of; "How will my actions and views be seen by those around me?" vs. "Is this objectively true?"
Once you become a social focus in the relationship, bringing up things/noticing becomes easier to have conversations about. Consider not making everything you notice about society / community negative.
As an example, "As much as I admire the bravery of early feminists, I think they really did the average woman a lot of harm by pushing them into the workforce and education. One, doubling the workforce seems to have devalued labor. So, in a way it's robbed us of the ability to have a single person working to support the family. It also framed marriage as an abusive slave like relationship, while considering the workplace objectively a good move. It baffles me a little bit that working with your family is slavery but working for a faceless corporation is freedom."