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Me and my ex are both 19, we met online and then real life, where most of the feelings developed, shortly after that, we took each other's virginity. After about ~4 months of daily texting, meeting with each other, (I go to a university, she works as a hair stylist) she simply told me, that she doesn't love me anymore. I was devastated, went and cried to her, without an ounce of reaction on her face. It's been a week now, I've tried talking to her 3 different times now with no good results. I gave up on finding anything salvageable, but I'd be glad to read some advice on here.
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Delon on scored.co
1 year ago 10 points (+0 / -0 / +10Score on mirror ) 1 child
shows you how much you mattered to her then
Corvor3 on scored.co
1 year ago 2 points (+0 / -0 / +2Score on mirror ) 2 children
Fucked me up honestly, especially when I had told her that I have severe trust issues from previous "friendships" and relationships. She even reassured me that she wouldn't leave me, painful to think that my issues may never be resolved. At least my conscience is clean, I never hurt her mentally, emotionally, or physically.
Delon on scored.co
1 year ago 8 points (+0 / -0 / +8Score on mirror ) 1 child
you had sex far too early and bitched to her. this is the benefit of waiting for marriage. because even if she left you, you would still have the "clean conscience" as you say of seeking a pure woman (And one that's far more likely to stick with you), now you are tainted and will never have that same pair bonding ability
Corvor3 on scored.co
1 year ago 4 points (+0 / -0 / +4Score on mirror )
That's my only regret, not keeping myself pure. I can only pray to God and keep myself celibate for the foreseeable future.
HimmlerWasRight88 on scored.co
1 year ago 5 points (+0 / -0 / +5Score on mirror ) 1 child
> I had told her that I have severe trust issues from previous "friendships" and relationships. She even reassured me that she wouldn't leave me

This is exactly why she broke up with you.

Take it as a learning experience. A woman *requires* a man who is confident and dashing and sure of himself. The moment she realizes that you have *fear* of her leaving you, then you're done for. There's absolutely no coming back after that. It may not happen immediately, but when she realizes (or thinks) that you're afraid of her leaving, the whole dynamic of a man being a man is compromised.

A woman needs to feel inferior to a man. If you make her reassure you of not leaving you, she realizes she has more value than you and her attraction towards you will vanish.

 > went and cried to her

There is nothing that disgusts a woman more than a man crying. They absolutely loathe it. If a woman sees you crying (unless it's for some very valid reason like losing a close family member) she will never be sexually attracted to you ever again.



Corvor3 on scored.co
1 year ago 0 points (+0 / -0 ) 1 child
When I told her about my trust issues, that was when I was feeling under the weather already since my mom was diagnosed with lumbar osteophytes earlier that month, and I would have to take care of her when dad wasn't home. Balancing a job, university and gym was physically and mentally tiring, only comfort at the time was talking to my ex.
HimmlerWasRight88 on scored.co
1 year ago 1 point (+0 / -0 / +1Score on mirror )
I understand. That's why I said, it's a learning experience.
You cannot trust a woman only because she's spreading her legs for you. She's not your friend. That's a tough realization, but a man will never be able to 100% trust his woman in the sense of telling her everything that he thinks.
Ideally you should have a good relationship with your father and you should be able to talk about your trust issues with your father.

You should never see your girlfriend as your friend.
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