I think about downsizing all the time as a responsible man and head of a household ought to. I absolutely agree that her role is to be a stay at home mom and I am always working toward that being a reality. Whether she wants that or not I know that if I made enough to make that a reality for her that she would do it. I am always weighing my options and figuring out what is best for the family. As of right now we are sitting on a perfect plot of land that we can afford and our children do and will benefit from greatly. Do you have White children?
You do realize that you can actually just downsize and still be a single-income house and your wife can do her *actual God given job*?
You're not proposing solutions, you're proposing a continuation. So therefore, you are part of the problem.