1 month ago14 points(+0/-0/+14Score on mirror)2 children
My friends got married on a beach in the evening with a dozen guests including their immediate family.
No gifts. Smart casual clothing. Nothing fancy.
We all took photos on our cameras and phones, so we didn't need a photographer.
The civil celebrant service cost something like $100 - $150 to get the paperwork done.
Afterwards we spent the evening together sitting around my stone fire pit.
Friends all chipped in $50 for drinks and BBQ meat. I prepared some home-brew like I often do.
I spent about $150 on some good quality snacks and cooked up some home-made pizzas (because they are nice) with feta salad.
It was a beautiful celebration.
One of my workmates had a massive fancy and expensive wedding. Professional caterers, florists, photographers, music, gifts for everyone, honeymoon holiday, etc. She wouldn't say how much it costs, but she did arrive on a horse drawn cart. I tried not to laugh when she said that. It sounded retarded.
sounds about right. should cost about the same as throwing a big family gathering - like a large Thanksgiving.
remember the purpose of a wedding: to celebrate the formation of a new family and to broadcast that this particular woman is taken to any other potential suitors.
Sounds like a good time. You are a good friend for trying your best to make it a special occassion.
It's really just about the union, celebrating the union, having family and friends who support the union. It's easier for a marriage to work out when everyone around you is supportive.
I dont even think the legal paperwork is necessary. For example if it puts you at disadvantage then dont file it. If it puts you at advantage then file. Having the government recognize a marriage is meaningless now that the government recognizes fake marriages. So that could have saved you guys extra $150.
That's what my brother did when he knocked up his girlfriend while she was still in high school. Took his pregnant wife to her senior prom.
There wasn't supposed to be any alcohol but her side of the family had beer and schnapps in their trunks. There was a fight in the parking slit and someone's tire.
1 month ago3 points(+0/-0/+3Score on mirror)1 child
I tried to get married as cheap as possible and couldn't find a way to do it so I just went to a Civil Servant's house and signed papers with immediate family. That was it. It was like $150.
I'm glad I did it that way because we got divorced. I couldn't imaging having also wasted $30k on a wedding.
1 month ago1 point(+0/-0/+1Score on mirror)1 child
For a woman it's her most important day of her life.
So we shouldn't be too fucking cheap, LOL
I'm okay with the back yard BBQ and playing banjo but women want attention, celebration, cheer, decoration and all that woman stuff. So i say entertain some of those female delusions for her if it makes her happy on the biggest day of her life.
Moderate her CONSOOMERISM with the idea that money not blown on the wedding can be down payment on the legacy of the marriage such as land, a home, saving for the first child, etc.
1 month ago2 points(+0/-0/+2Score on mirror)1 child
yeah, precisely. i'd honestly be willing to spend $500-$1000 on a "big family gathering" type wedding with food and drink and decorations, but never for a woman who's not willing to do it for $0.
ever since the world decided married couples were something to target and beat down instead of support and give benefits, there's zero reason to get legally married anyway. hell, i've heard some countries will treat you as married legally if you just live together a while when it comes to helping rip you apart later, so it's clear they really want re-atomization to be as common and traumatic as possible.
Paid just under $1000 for a wedding with 200 people in attendance. Includes dress, cake, decorations, and such. Paid some family members for their contributions in there as well
No gifts. Smart casual clothing. Nothing fancy.
We all took photos on our cameras and phones, so we didn't need a photographer.
The civil celebrant service cost something like $100 - $150 to get the paperwork done.
Afterwards we spent the evening together sitting around my stone fire pit.
Friends all chipped in $50 for drinks and BBQ meat. I prepared some home-brew like I often do.
I spent about $150 on some good quality snacks and cooked up some home-made pizzas (because they are nice) with feta salad.
It was a beautiful celebration.
One of my workmates had a massive fancy and expensive wedding. Professional caterers, florists, photographers, music, gifts for everyone, honeymoon holiday, etc. She wouldn't say how much it costs, but she did arrive on a horse drawn cart. I tried not to laugh when she said that. It sounded retarded.
remember the purpose of a wedding: to celebrate the formation of a new family and to broadcast that this particular woman is taken to any other potential suitors.
It's really just about the union, celebrating the union, having family and friends who support the union. It's easier for a marriage to work out when everyone around you is supportive.
I dont even think the legal paperwork is necessary. For example if it puts you at disadvantage then dont file it. If it puts you at advantage then file. Having the government recognize a marriage is meaningless now that the government recognizes fake marriages. So that could have saved you guys extra $150.