Don't be the faggot complaining about how your looks are the reason you can't get a girlfriend. Bitching and whining is the most counterproductive and effeminate self-victimizing shit you can do. Incels disgust me. Yes, it's true, looks matter. But only for the initial attraction. Unless your only goal is to fuck, it does not help you long term if you are attractive but a borderline autist socially, because they will get weirded out and leave. I am speaking from the other side of the fence here, but I have been pretty since high school. However, I was not able to keep a woman around me for more than a few months because I was socially retarded anyways. It's a skill to learn and to hone.
And I know it's cliche, but it's true. There are ugly people in relationships. When I was younger I used to be very jealous of people who were much less attractive, objectively, than I was, because they were actually able to *keep* a relationship going. I got stuck in the endless cycle of pretty woman approaches me -> date for a few days-> sex-> incompatible personalities-> never speak again. But there is a caveat. If you are unattractive, women will need another reason to be attracted to you in the first place. Make yourself stand out, make yourself look higher status than you actually are (half of dating is lying for both parties), be someone pleasant to be around in general. The gym helps, improving your body improves your face, and women like good bodies (everyone who says otherwise is lying. Especially if they are a woman).
Learn useful and productive skills. Women like men who aren't useless as much as they like pretty faces. You should be doing this as a man anyways, but if your excuse is to impress women, you're still learning the skill so it doesn't really matter.
Finally, figure out which type of woman is attracted to your phenotype. Nobody really talks about this, but different women who fall into different categories are attracted to different types of men. I have always been more attractive to alternative/scene/emo whatever women because I look more like Eric Roberts or Björn Andresen than Henry Cavil or Jason Statham. Varsity girls, traditional women, and women who play sports are more likely to be attractive to more fully masculine faces. Where do you stand? Figure it out, and talk to women who are more likely to find you attractive accordingly. And, furthermore, every subcategory has its whores and its good women, and everything in between. Don't fall into the trap of automatically thinking that a woman with dutch braids and a summer dress is a God fearing saintly woman. Likewise, don't assume that every girl who dresses "alt" is a whore. The alt girl could be the God-fearing woman and the "tradwife" could be the whore, I have seen this play out a few times in my life. Know who they are first. I've met alt-girls who sounded like Adolf Hitler when they talked about political issues and traditional looking girls who were incredibly liberal and retarded. Actually, "alts" being sluts is a very new viewpoint that is mostly caused by posers on tiktok, or posers irl. I guess at some point, women realized that Avril Lavigne is actually pretty fucking hot and copied that look. IDK why this started exactly though. When I was school-aged, and at every point in the past pretty much, they had the exact opposite perception.
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And I know it's cliche, but it's true. There are ugly people in relationships. When I was younger I used to be very jealous of people who were much less attractive, objectively, than I was, because they were actually able to *keep* a relationship going. I got stuck in the endless cycle of pretty woman approaches me -> date for a few days-> sex-> incompatible personalities-> never speak again. But there is a caveat. If you are unattractive, women will need another reason to be attracted to you in the first place. Make yourself stand out, make yourself look higher status than you actually are (half of dating is lying for both parties), be someone pleasant to be around in general. The gym helps, improving your body improves your face, and women like good bodies (everyone who says otherwise is lying. Especially if they are a woman).
Learn useful and productive skills. Women like men who aren't useless as much as they like pretty faces. You should be doing this as a man anyways, but if your excuse is to impress women, you're still learning the skill so it doesn't really matter.
Finally, figure out which type of woman is attracted to your phenotype. Nobody really talks about this, but different women who fall into different categories are attracted to different types of men. I have always been more attractive to alternative/scene/emo whatever women because I look more like Eric Roberts or Björn Andresen than Henry Cavil or Jason Statham. Varsity girls, traditional women, and women who play sports are more likely to be attractive to more fully masculine faces. Where do you stand? Figure it out, and talk to women who are more likely to find you attractive accordingly. And, furthermore, every subcategory has its whores and its good women, and everything in between. Don't fall into the trap of automatically thinking that a woman with dutch braids and a summer dress is a God fearing saintly woman. Likewise, don't assume that every girl who dresses "alt" is a whore. The alt girl could be the God-fearing woman and the "tradwife" could be the whore, I have seen this play out a few times in my life. Know who they are first. I've met alt-girls who sounded like Adolf Hitler when they talked about political issues and traditional looking girls who were incredibly liberal and retarded. Actually, "alts" being sluts is a very new viewpoint that is mostly caused by posers on tiktok, or posers irl. I guess at some point, women realized that Avril Lavigne is actually pretty fucking hot and copied that look. IDK why this started exactly though. When I was school-aged, and at every point in the past pretty much, they had the exact opposite perception.
Furthermore, I consider that Israel must be destroyed
If you are not a 9/10 or above in looks online dating is not for you.
The best way is through friends, family, work, group hobbies, etc, where you interact with potential dates and learn about each other before deciding to go on a date.
Looks will always be important though. I can't criticize women for, at the very least, wanting to date their looksmatches. It's biology. And I wouldnt date unattractive women, i also care about looks. Everyone does. The issue with online dating is creating an environment with women who think they're way hotter than they are and guys who are way more desperate than they should be. Mix those two dialectical elements together and you create an abominable synthesis.
Stacy has always known that she's beautiful and she's within her right to only want to date chad. But nowadays, Becky thinks that she's as pretty as Stacy is because of rampant toxic positivity and continues to try desperately to get with Chad. Chad wants nothing to do with her. Becky fulfills her urges by fucking random dudes, will not settle down with them because she thinks she has a place with Chad. Is eventually forced to face reality and to settle down with someone other than Chad, who is probably more ugly than even she is.
The issue isn't pretty women, they've always just been there. The issue is women who aren't pretty but think that they are. Which is a pretty new thing. Toxic positivity is nebulous and overwhelming. It gives people a false idea of who they actually are and breeds arrogance and cherry-picking behaviors. I actually think this is the biological reason for why women used to bully each other so relentlessly. Bring back women acting like the movie mean girls and I guarantee you it'd stop.
Here's the thing. Women are natural gatekeepers. Their societal function is to effectively be moderators and enforce whatever the standard is among other women and their children. If left alone, they will do this relentlessly. Even among, ironically, countercultures, they will still enforce the "culture" of the counterculture and gatekeep whoever they view as "posers". This is fine, this is normal, the issue is that you rarely see this behavior anymore. Now, they have been injected with a false sense of some vague "sisterhood" between women where they're all allies and should all support each other. This isn't how it works. Women police culture, men create it. Women *should* gatekeep and be exclusive towards other women who do not fit in, because that's their fucking job. Contrary to popular belief, men do not put women in their place. We never have, not in one human society ever. Because we cannot, because we do not have a female brain and cannot do this properly. Women put other women in their place. And now they do not, and it hasn't even been that long since this behavior was largely abandoned. When I was school-aged, girls were still cliquey and exclusionary, and I'm only in my mid 20s.
Furthermore, I consider that Israel must be destroyed
Furthermore, I consider that Israel must be destroyed