This is exactly why I don't cold approach
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While you *can* do it bluntly like this, it's better to have at least a modicum of setup to the ask. As an example, the one time I ever cold approached a girl (on impulse at a department store, several months ago,) I did so like this:
She was deeply lingering in the book aisle, scanning the shelves. Introverted energy, looked lost in her own head. I walked up, motioned to the books, and said, "Pardon me, do you like *mysteries,* by chance?"
She looked slightly startled. "Oh, um, kind of, I guess."
"I see. I just thought you looked kind of mysterious yourself, browsing alone in the Walmart book section."
Cheesy as fuck, but delivered with complete confidence. Immediate blushy giggle, big grin.
A little bit of back and forth about what she was reading, mentioning the fact that I'm a writer, blah blah. Only at *that* point do I drop the, "Well listen, I thought you were cute, and I'd be really interested to get to know you a bit better if you'd like to give me your number."
She was flattered, but ultimately declined. However, it was a very pleasant, "yes-shaped" no. She'd freely offered me her name and a handshake just prior, and I walked away in higher spirits than before I approached. Very unlike the venom this nigger was met with.
Obviously, being a handsome White man is a *necessary* odds multiplier for a cold approach to ever work, but it also makes a world of difference to put a little bit of humor and wit into it. Women love to laugh. And no matter what you say, you *must* avoid carrying yourself with the cagey, limp-wrist energy of the shitskin in this video.
But—cold approaching is a low-odds game no matter how you play it. The vast majority of women—even those who are charmed by you—will still reject you for a variety of reasons. Usually existing circumstances (as was claimed in my case,) sometimes just pure caution surrounding the notion of giving out their number to a stranger. It requires a lot of luck.