"Pull yourself up by the bootstraps, kido!"
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My ex's family used to steal baby bonus checks from each other constantly as the one kid got passed around (fucked up custody situation). Her Dad was decent; he sold us his old car for $500, which is the most financial support we ever got from any of them.
My own parents have plenty of money but expect me to do things for them for free. Any time they want something done with a computer, no matter how complicated or time consuming, they figure I'll use the skills I gained on my own just because I must love doing it. When I was a kid I was expected to help renovate their house, which I had no say over, and which they've sold without any consideration or compensation to me. By contrast, my mother flat out refused to babysit *ever* when it would have helped out but now that the kids are self-sufficient want to see them all the time and my father refused to let me learn his business, even as I was using my vacation time from my own job to work for him.
Frankly, I don't want their money at this point. I've got my life setup; it's not glamorous but I'm debt free and make my own decisions. It would take over a million dollars to buy a house in my area and anything less would put me hundreds or thousands in debt. Twenty years ago I'd asked them for money for a downpayment and they refused even a loan (even though their own parents *gifted* them the money to build a livestock barn and equipment), telling me "it's actually better to rent".
Well, it wasn't then but it is now and the last thing I need is to give them an excuse to meddle in my affairs or try guilt me into wiping their asses for them as they age.
I'm glad there are decent Boomers out there but I'm constantly disgusted at how often they seem to fall into the same selfish patterns.