(Throwaway account cause I don't wanna get doxxed)
First of all, I'm gonna make it clear I'm not exactly a saint, I had sex with many girls myself and I feel like I wouldn't have the strength to stop unless I got a stable relationship, I can't imagine just not having sex for an extended period. You could say I'm addicted.
Anyway, a few months ago I had casual sex with a girl and since it was good and we live close by that led into some kind of relationship. I since learned that before she met me she had lots of sex with different men, and as far as I know she never caught feelings for any of them, and yet she seems to be in love with me. I know she was abused by some relative as she was very young and that made her like that. I also know she got pregnant once at 14 and was forced to terminate by her horrible parents, and she was unsurprisingly traumatized by this event. Also she's been on birth control since before I knew her.
The reason I'm typing all of this is that for some reason I feel like she might make for a good wife despite all of that shit. She is extremely obedient. She seems to be willing to do anything for me. We've also never had any arguments, even if she thinks I'm wrong or I'm wronging her she just understands she's got no choice and goes along with it. She expressed the desire to have a family and it's clear she wants it specifically with me. I also enjoy her presence and her personality.
Does her past really matter? Have I lowered my standards too much? If I leave her, what do I do? I really would like to just stop worrying and be happy with this woman, but also I can't really ignore the reality of the situation and I feel like this might not end well. This whole thing has been driving me insane for several weeks and I just can't make up my mind. Also the fact that my feelings on the matter seem to be heavily influenced by my sexual urges makes me think I'm just never gonna be able to assess this rationally.
Any help is very appreciated.
Let's be honest here: everything you described about her amounts to a *lot* of bad shit, even relative to the modern woman. On paper, it sounds like a physical impossibility that she is not extremely fucked up and unfit for motherhood. Women are notoriously good at hiding their crazy, especially if you aren't diligently looking for it.
That being said, if you're serious about vetting her, my two cents would be to play the long game up to marriage, I.E. date for at least a couple years, and pay extremely close attention during that time. Something I will say, though...
> Also she's been on birth control since before I knew her.
You've already got a massive red flag right off the bat. Birth control fucks up a woman's emotional state. First thing's first, you would need to spend an extended period of time around her completely off of that stuff and see if she's even still the same person. Lots of stories about women going on/off birth control and completely losing attraction to their partner.
Big white families make kikes seethe like no other.
If you really, seriously want a faithful wife and to take the properly ordered path of a stable family and children, then you don't move forward with her. She's not that woman.
If you want to keep having fun, indulging in carnal pleasure at the increasing expense of ever aligning yourself with the former option, then keep fucking her. Treat her like she's just another one of your flings, albeit a particularly servile one.
And I'm not even putting psychological pressure on you one way or the other here. Those are just the two options, matter-of-factly. The choice between them is yours.
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