After seeing that other post pinned for a few days and reading through the well-intentioned but mostly-useless replies, I figured I would add my two cents. This will be a long read, but a read much shorter than the life of loneliness that awaits you if you skip it.
I am 25. I am married. Most of my friends are in their 20s, many of them are married or engaged. I have known no fewer than 5 of them since before they met their future wife, and I saw the whole process from sad bachelor, to dating, to engaged, to married. In every case the same truth holds: if you want to find a wife you need a social circle. You need to be part of an orbit that pulls people in and keeps them together. You cannot be isolated and expect some woman to just appear. To simplify this to the point of obviousness, if you want to meet a specific person, you have to meet *people*.
Most of my friends met their wives in college. There was the social atmosphere of school that developed into social circles revolving around some kind of commonality (interests, classes, living accommodations, whatever) that provided opportunities for people to meet eachother and then keep in contact. Other friends of mine met their wives through already established social circles, like through a friend of a friend, or because she was an acquaintance's sister. Could you meet a woman online or in some chance-encounter and eventually marry her? Sure, and I hope for many of you that happens. But if you have a small or stagnant social life, that's where you need to start. The easiest way to meet people you'll get along with is through people you already know and trust.
Everything I've said so far should be obvious and intuitive, but I think one of the biggest problems for our generation is that a lot of people literally have no friends. If they do have friends they're all online, or if they're actually in the same city they may only spend time with them once every few months. I can't tell you how to build a network from scratch because I've never had to do that. What I can point out though is that if you're trying to find a wife but you don't have at least one group of friends you regularly hang out with then you're setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. If you are socially successful take this as a call to lift up the young men beneath you. It's almost impossible for them to help themselves because again, the easiest way to meet people is through people you already know.
Now, if you're still with me I need to address one final point. I also know men who have been "available" for years, who claim they wish they were married, who are no better off now than before, despite us sharing many of the same social circles. In almost every case, they're still single because they are terrified of "settling". In fact, marrying any woman would be settling to them, because they judge every woman by their ever shifting imagination, so no matter how great she is she can never even be acceptable. If this is you then hear this: you will not find a soul-mate, you will not find the one. I could go on about how feminine it is to wait for perfection but instead I will close by saying that women are ontologically malleable. Find a woman and make her your soul-mate. By choosing her you make her the one. Of course there are standards and of course there are limits but any debt-free virgin without tattoos deserves your serious consideration. Anyways, I hope this was helpful. God be with you all.
I am 25. I am married. Most of my friends are in their 20s, many of them are married or engaged. I have known no fewer than 5 of them since before they met their future wife, and I saw the whole process from sad bachelor, to dating, to engaged, to married. In every case the same truth holds: if you want to find a wife you need a social circle. You need to be part of an orbit that pulls people in and keeps them together. You cannot be isolated and expect some woman to just appear. To simplify this to the point of obviousness, if you want to meet a specific person, you have to meet *people*.
Most of my friends met their wives in college. There was the social atmosphere of school that developed into social circles revolving around some kind of commonality (interests, classes, living accommodations, whatever) that provided opportunities for people to meet eachother and then keep in contact. Other friends of mine met their wives through already established social circles, like through a friend of a friend, or because she was an acquaintance's sister. Could you meet a woman online or in some chance-encounter and eventually marry her? Sure, and I hope for many of you that happens. But if you have a small or stagnant social life, that's where you need to start. The easiest way to meet people you'll get along with is through people you already know and trust.
Everything I've said so far should be obvious and intuitive, but I think one of the biggest problems for our generation is that a lot of people literally have no friends. If they do have friends they're all online, or if they're actually in the same city they may only spend time with them once every few months. I can't tell you how to build a network from scratch because I've never had to do that. What I can point out though is that if you're trying to find a wife but you don't have at least one group of friends you regularly hang out with then you're setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. If you are socially successful take this as a call to lift up the young men beneath you. It's almost impossible for them to help themselves because again, the easiest way to meet people is through people you already know.
Now, if you're still with me I need to address one final point. I also know men who have been "available" for years, who claim they wish they were married, who are no better off now than before, despite us sharing many of the same social circles. In almost every case, they're still single because they are terrified of "settling". In fact, marrying any woman would be settling to them, because they judge every woman by their ever shifting imagination, so no matter how great she is she can never even be acceptable. If this is you then hear this: you will not find a soul-mate, you will not find the one. I could go on about how feminine it is to wait for perfection but instead I will close by saying that women are ontologically malleable. Find a woman and make her your soul-mate. By choosing her you make her the one. Of course there are standards and of course there are limits but any debt-free virgin without tattoos deserves your serious consideration. Anyways, I hope this was helpful. God be with you all.