This is a quick guide on finding a girl. Feel free to ask me any questions you have. Not everything works on every girl so you can make your own adjustments and this guide is more about just getting a girls number. This is a general quick guide so some things may work better or worse depending where you live.
1. Inner Battle
- Take care of yourself by exercising, healthy foods(they really do help mood such as caoco powder and avocado which can be bought in cups), haircut
- Wearing clothes that fit and suit your style(if you are normal then get any watch and necklace and possible bracelet). Copying celebs/models outfits can be good. It doesn't have to be overboard but just someone who looks fuckable which is basically someone who like themselves and confident in them. If below 6 feet tall then buy shoes with height increase or wear elevated soles in your shoes basically man heels. Women wear heels and spend tons of money on makeup and etc so dont feel bad about wearing them.
- If your face is fat then beard if possible(rogaine can make most people grow a beard after 3-6months) - reason is to create that jaw line shadow
- DO NOT USE DATING APPS - 90% of first dates don't lead to 2nd dates, too much competition and women can't decide what man to go with, you have higher chances of getting a girl from online games/forums, dating apps will hurt confidence in the long run, depending where you live matters so some cities dating apps might work better
- Women want men to approach them, there is so many girls who wish that men would just walk up and say something to them.
- Women want you to be confident and will go with whatever you believe is right.
- What kind of girl are you looking for? Write down what you like/dislike about your ideal girl. It doesn't matter on the specific things she is into so don't worry about those when dating.
2. Where To Get Numbers
- Local groups and events on whatever you are interested in is good
- Connections from friends - asking friends is easy if they know someone
- Employees - this is the easiest girls to hit on
- Random girls in the store
- Church/Church Groups - some Churches have singles groups
- Bars/Clubs - I don't drink/smoke so I'm not big into those places
3. Mental And How To Approach
- You don't lose by asking a girl if she is single or has a boyfriend, you lose by not asking at all.
- Girls love being approached/attention so don't worry if she is not single
- Reality is men actually have a super power when it comes to dating. This super power is that a man can approach any girl and ask them out so if a man taps into that power then they can pick from the girls they have asked out while women just wait to be asked out. Reality is the only bad thing to happen is if you don't ask women out at all because when you don't then you will beat yourself up over it later.
- Start with talking to employees - Ask them about stuff around you
- Basic Approach goes something like this
1. Starter - You say something about her looks you like or just say "you seem interesting." or you can even start by saying something around the both of you.
2. Will You Like Her? - Then you start to evaluate her by guessing what she is into. Does she seem a bit nerdy then say she seems like she would be into anime or if she seems in shape then say something about fitness.
3. # To Setup Date - After the conversion starts flowing then depending what is going on if she looks busy or you are out shopping then ask for her number so you can get to know her more since you got to go or let them continue their shopping.
You can ask her if she has a bf or if her bf likes _ or single but it isn't required because most girls will let you know if they have a bf when you start talking to them.
Reward System - After each girl you approach then reward yourself, as simple as this sounds this really helps encourages yourself to just do it.
I saw some people posting about finding a wife/gf and hope this helps. I know some men could use some advice and wanted to throw mine out there from experience. There might be some things that could use more polish and explained more in this. If people like this enough then I can add video examples.
1. Inner Battle
- Take care of yourself by exercising, healthy foods(they really do help mood such as caoco powder and avocado which can be bought in cups), haircut
- Wearing clothes that fit and suit your style(if you are normal then get any watch and necklace and possible bracelet). Copying celebs/models outfits can be good. It doesn't have to be overboard but just someone who looks fuckable which is basically someone who like themselves and confident in them. If below 6 feet tall then buy shoes with height increase or wear elevated soles in your shoes basically man heels. Women wear heels and spend tons of money on makeup and etc so dont feel bad about wearing them.
- If your face is fat then beard if possible(rogaine can make most people grow a beard after 3-6months) - reason is to create that jaw line shadow
- DO NOT USE DATING APPS - 90% of first dates don't lead to 2nd dates, too much competition and women can't decide what man to go with, you have higher chances of getting a girl from online games/forums, dating apps will hurt confidence in the long run, depending where you live matters so some cities dating apps might work better
- Women want men to approach them, there is so many girls who wish that men would just walk up and say something to them.
- Women want you to be confident and will go with whatever you believe is right.
- What kind of girl are you looking for? Write down what you like/dislike about your ideal girl. It doesn't matter on the specific things she is into so don't worry about those when dating.
2. Where To Get Numbers
- Local groups and events on whatever you are interested in is good
- Connections from friends - asking friends is easy if they know someone
- Employees - this is the easiest girls to hit on
- Random girls in the store
- Church/Church Groups - some Churches have singles groups
- Bars/Clubs - I don't drink/smoke so I'm not big into those places
3. Mental And How To Approach
- You don't lose by asking a girl if she is single or has a boyfriend, you lose by not asking at all.
- Girls love being approached/attention so don't worry if she is not single
- Reality is men actually have a super power when it comes to dating. This super power is that a man can approach any girl and ask them out so if a man taps into that power then they can pick from the girls they have asked out while women just wait to be asked out. Reality is the only bad thing to happen is if you don't ask women out at all because when you don't then you will beat yourself up over it later.
- Start with talking to employees - Ask them about stuff around you
- Basic Approach goes something like this
1. Starter - You say something about her looks you like or just say "you seem interesting." or you can even start by saying something around the both of you.
2. Will You Like Her? - Then you start to evaluate her by guessing what she is into. Does she seem a bit nerdy then say she seems like she would be into anime or if she seems in shape then say something about fitness.
3. # To Setup Date - After the conversion starts flowing then depending what is going on if she looks busy or you are out shopping then ask for her number so you can get to know her more since you got to go or let them continue their shopping.
You can ask her if she has a bf or if her bf likes _ or single but it isn't required because most girls will let you know if they have a bf when you start talking to them.
Reward System - After each girl you approach then reward yourself, as simple as this sounds this really helps encourages yourself to just do it.
I saw some people posting about finding a wife/gf and hope this helps. I know some men could use some advice and wanted to throw mine out there from experience. There might be some things that could use more polish and explained more in this. If people like this enough then I can add video examples.
1. be attractive
2. don't be unattractive
3. stop sperging out so much
that's really all there is to it. Unless you are looking for a wife (Which you should be) in which case add step 4
4. Have strong morals and never compromise on them, especially when in the so called dating stage
I wrote up this seeing how some people need guidance and since I have helped myself get a wife and others thought it would be nice to share. The main issue I see is men who don't have girls around them lack confidence in themselves.
So you say "be attractive" but what is it really? There is fat people who are consider attractive by using beard to hide face fat, nice clothes, some fashion such as necklace/watch, and they are happy with themselves. But you still have to go outside to places and ask girls out regardless how attractive you are. And before you start mentioning celebs, those celebs names are already known so a bit unfair to compare to a normal person who not as many know their name.
Single women want you to approach them and you should if you are single too. You will go through women with boyfriends/not interested but once you get the woman that is interested and likes you then that is all you need.
Women even say that they can find a man attractive but if a man less attractive approaches her then she will like the man who approached more.
This is why "wingman" tactics mostly don't work because she will like the man who approached first more than the man she was suppose to like.
If you're not attracting *any* women, then you're not trying. End of discussion.
The working out/ well rounded character stuff is merely to attract higher quality women.