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KingSweyn on scored.co
1 year ago1 point(+0/-0/+1Score on mirror)1 child
Too bad "spanking" isn't one thing.
Corporal punishment should be on the list of potential consequences, yes, but parents who smack their kids for minor infractions without warning are teaching their kids that casual violence is normal and ok.
For my kids, corporal punishment is a reserved punishment: for when they wrongfully use physical force, or when they rightfully use physical force but lose the fight. Each wrongdoing category has a matching consequence category: social, physical, and possessions.
Negative reinforcement is the most effective behavior modifier, better than punishment or reward (aka positive reinforcement). "I told you twice now, so now I'm taking away your XBOX until you clean your room." Taking away the things they like (rather than giving them experiences they don't like) should be your go-to "punishment".
Corporal punishment should be on the list of potential consequences, yes, but parents who smack their kids for minor infractions without warning are teaching their kids that casual violence is normal and ok.
For my kids, corporal punishment is a reserved punishment: for when they wrongfully use physical force, or when they rightfully use physical force but lose the fight. Each wrongdoing category has a matching consequence category: social, physical, and possessions.
Negative reinforcement is the most effective behavior modifier, better than punishment or reward (aka positive reinforcement). "I told you twice now, so now I'm taking away your XBOX until you clean your room." Taking away the things they like (rather than giving them experiences they don't like) should be your go-to "punishment".
...unless you're raising niglets.