I recently watched a video about something like "What to do if someone accuses you of being a racist."
The essence of this argument is something like this:
* If you try to refute that you are a racist, you are ceding the point that being a racist is bad, and you end up arguing about the definition of racism and whether you qualify.
* If you accept that you are a racist, you are ceding the point that being a racist is bad, etc...
His recommendation is simply this:
* Agree that you are racist, along with everyone else (because that's what people who accuse you of racism actually believe.)
* Note that the data still says what you say it says, whether or not racism is good or bad or whoever or whatever is racist.
Example:
A: "We need TKD because jews keep subverting our country."
B: "You are a racist!"
A: "Whether or not I am a racist is irrelevant. In fact, everyone is racist according to you. I am just agreeing with you about that. Regardless, if we allow jews into our country they are inevitably going to subvert and destroy us, like they have done in every country which welcomed them."
B: "REEEEEE!"
Offering justification puts you in a position of weakness as if you owe everyone an explanation for your misconduct.
It empowers others to reject your excuses.
At that point, you've already lost the debate.
Instead, maintain your power over the interaction by just saying, "Yes".
You owe them nothing.