This year someone I know was not doing well so I was trying to help them with something yet I wasn't really taught how to do this thing well myself.
Take for an example, maybe this person couldn't cook for themselves and I was tasked with cooking for them, although I hadn't been taught how to cook and have taught myself to do so by reading online and watching videos and through trial and error.
So I only have so much confidence with the skill I developed myself and the system I set up for myself, while this person's system was different than mine (say they were allergic to peanuts, so I would have needed to always be on the lookout for peanuts being secretly added to things, which I wouldn't have even thought about in my own system of cooking).
So I guess it's a question to me of how to 1. develop better life skills, 2. how to work other people's systems if you aren't aware of all of what their needs are and 3. how to identify and close gaps in your "life skills" skillset.
Any input would be appreciated
Internet after.
Step 1. I want to do X.
Step 2. I research and make a plan.
Step 3. I continue to do it even when its hard and requires discipline and its no longer new and fun. I commit.
Step 4. Many years later look back fondly on my achievement.
Edit: retrospective frequently
Anything worth doing to improve yourself will cause you pain. Work through it.