my parents really didn't teach me shit about being an adult at all, had to learn it the hard way.
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so were you not taught a lot of things in school or by parents?
I guess I feel like there were often gaps that school thought parents would teach and parents thought school would teach but neither taught
I guess I feel like there were often gaps that school thought parents would teach and parents thought school would teach but neither taught
Good post. I find setting up a camera on an angle that can see me working while showing the steps, and parts/pieces to the camera as I remove them helps. I mostly talking about working on vehicles, but it can work on other things too of course.
Learn how to learn. Especially from people whom you have zero respect for, otherwise.
Start with a moderately complex task and look for instructions/methods. Pick a few different ones and see what helps you the most.
Do this enough until you can take on a discipline instead of a task
It helps immensely with obtaining other useful life skills.
Start with a moderately complex task and look for instructions/methods. Pick a few different ones and see what helps you the most.
Do this enough until you can take on a discipline instead of a task
It helps immensely with obtaining other useful life skills.
One of the best things I ever read, or was told(can’t remember) is always break the process down into as small of steps as possible, and then find a way to break them down even smaller. It’s served me well over the years to not get overly frustrated, and impatient. It’s also ok to start a project, and then come back to it a few days later or the next weekend if that’s the only free time you have. Be patient, take your time, and do it right(not perfect) the first time.
investments. though i havent dived into that a lot yet. the shit my parents advice never goes up long term
The things you own, but have not used in the last year or two, get rid of them.
The things you own will end up owning you.
The things you own will end up owning you.
I have to admit I've gone from like
average consoomer
hardcore minimalist
to... now like maximalist or something, I don't know how to describe it
Problem with minimalism is it feels like I can't rely on society for much, so I end up thinking I need to "hoard" a bunch of "stuff" that I won't be able to get other places
Essentially during covid everything was shut down, so in normal times maybe you can rely on a store that has a "warehouse of stuff" but due to things like covid and people banning people, society felt less reliable, so I've wanted to hold on to more "stuff" and "become the warehouse"
this is still probably pretty moderate compared to some "consoomers" but I don't feel as minimalist anymore if that makes sense?
I feel like a lot of hobbies or things in life like with self-sufficiency require a lot of raw materials and tools and it just ends up being a whole lot of - seemingly necessary - "stuff"
average consoomer
hardcore minimalist
to... now like maximalist or something, I don't know how to describe it
Problem with minimalism is it feels like I can't rely on society for much, so I end up thinking I need to "hoard" a bunch of "stuff" that I won't be able to get other places
Essentially during covid everything was shut down, so in normal times maybe you can rely on a store that has a "warehouse of stuff" but due to things like covid and people banning people, society felt less reliable, so I've wanted to hold on to more "stuff" and "become the warehouse"
this is still probably pretty moderate compared to some "consoomers" but I don't feel as minimalist anymore if that makes sense?
I feel like a lot of hobbies or things in life like with self-sufficiency require a lot of raw materials and tools and it just ends up being a whole lot of - seemingly necessary - "stuff"
I grew up poor so my dad was a jack of all trades because he had to be, and he tried to teach me home improvement and mechanics but at the time I was uneager to learn. I didn't learn a lot of cooking skills or homesteading knowledge that I'm now devouring information on and improving my skills how I can.
My dad did teach me how to learn, however. How to find resources, how to use a manual to troubleshoot problems, how to search YouTube for the specific problem you have. So while he didn't teach me how to can or dehydrate food or how to use every last part of a turkey, he did teach me how to find that information, which has been a valuable skill.
My dad did teach me how to learn, however. How to find resources, how to use a manual to troubleshoot problems, how to search YouTube for the specific problem you have. So while he didn't teach me how to can or dehydrate food or how to use every last part of a turkey, he did teach me how to find that information, which has been a valuable skill.
Sometimes it’s better to be a blank slate than to have bad skills, and habits developed from older mentors. Retard maxxing is a legit thing that many people are enjoying now, and with the internet, and all the great books we have at our disposal now, there really ain’t much of an excuse. You just have to realize and accept that you’re definitely going to “waste” a lot of time, look like a dumbass at times, make mistakes, and occasionally ruin, and break things. If you can get past those fears, the world is your oyster. You can pretty much accomplish anything within reason.
I still have issues with some of this at times myself, and I’m more than likely on the second half of my life. Never be afraid to break things down into smaller steps. The big picture is always important, but breaking things down into as small of steps as possible will always help you to accomplish small wins along the way to the final goal. Good luck, and God bless fren.
Edit: I came back to say that there is nothing like learning something yourself from basically scratch, and accomplishing it with little to no help from anyone else. The feeling of accomplishment truly is something unique. Yeah, it may take longer, but you know you did it, and did it right.
I still have issues with some of this at times myself, and I’m more than likely on the second half of my life. Never be afraid to break things down into smaller steps. The big picture is always important, but breaking things down into as small of steps as possible will always help you to accomplish small wins along the way to the final goal. Good luck, and God bless fren.
Edit: I came back to say that there is nothing like learning something yourself from basically scratch, and accomplishing it with little to no help from anyone else. The feeling of accomplishment truly is something unique. Yeah, it may take longer, but you know you did it, and did it right.
Books before internet.
Internet after.
Step 1. I want to do X.
Step 2. I research and make a plan.
Step 3. I continue to do it even when its hard and requires discipline and its no longer new and fun. I commit.
Step 4. Many years later look back fondly on my achievement.
Edit: retrospective frequently
Anything worth doing to improve yourself will cause you pain. Work through it.
Internet after.
Step 1. I want to do X.
Step 2. I research and make a plan.
Step 3. I continue to do it even when its hard and requires discipline and its no longer new and fun. I commit.
Step 4. Many years later look back fondly on my achievement.
Edit: retrospective frequently
Anything worth doing to improve yourself will cause you pain. Work through it.
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