Need advice from the chads of conpro. I work a job, have my own place but cannot get a gf.
Decent girls have never shown interest in me. Only 4/10s. Which means Im like a 5/10 in appearance. Im not physically deformed or too ugly. My main looks problems stem from fixable shit like acne, bad teeth, skinny fat body, etc.
I work a job, have a car, my own place, so im not too far gone. Im in my 20s.
Problem is that on top of being mid looks wise, I am an anti-social autistic motherfucker. No social media presence at all. Dont give a fuck about fashion trends. I just hate people and interacting with them. Only dudes that I interact with irl are those that are as autistic as I am. I literally cannot have a conversation with normies about mundane NPC shit. Talking with women is the worst thing I can possibly imagine.
I just want a warm female body next to me. How do I unfuck myself bros?
Now, you're antisocial and autistic with no media presence, hates people. You can make this desirable. But the end of that 4th part, "Talking with women is the worst thing I can possibly imagine". That's the deal, that's what's concerning. You like the IDEA of women, rather than women. If you don't teach yourself to be respectful and mindful you'll have a way harder time than if you're constantly disgusted by the idea of talking to women.
First, we're gonna go for the looks tips. A little push goes a long way. See how you look with different accessories. If your hair is short enough to be covered by a hat, the trucker-cap + aviators combo is a tried-and-true method to look utterly badass. If you're going for a less testosterone-fueled look though, it can be as simple as wearing glasses. Glasses make a 4/10 go to a 6/10 usually. They look inherently good on most people. If you have long hair like I do, wash it well and don't do stupid stuff. I used to go at it with a brush and I'd look like a mushroom most days. Switched to a comb and my hair looks way better than it used to.
I don't know you, I don't know the reason you're considering yourself a 5. Average-looking is the best you could've hoped for, in all honesty, because that gives you a LOT of freedom. It's about what people actually want vs. what you think they want. If you think they want what certain circles would consider a 10/10 man then you'll be rather surprised. You can delude yourself into thinking that's the peak of attractiveness very easily. But I'm getting ahead of myself. You can be a 5 because that's just how you are or you're a 5 because you're not exercising your full potential. Do you have acne? Slow-growing facial hair? Get some of those pimple patch things, they work wonders. Some people just weren't meant to have facial hair either. I should know, mine's blond, blonde facial hair looks awful.
But that's just looks. There's a lot more outside. Your voice and your personality, mainly. Your personality even would have aspects to go over, but I'll try and keep this short because I've typed way long enough. Are you a baritone or a bass? Do you have to sing an octave low for your favorite songs? If you are, great. That's a full-ride ticket right there. Everyone loves a baritone, especially if he can sing. Which brings me to the hobby aspect. First, your hobbies. Hobbies make you attractive. Everyone has a talent; some are super gay, some aren't.
There's some objective information here, what percentage of women find certain hobbies attractive. This is easy to find. I'll even link it here. https://iol.co.za/lifestyle/love-sex/relationships/2024-09-10-the-most-and-least-attractive-male-hobbies-according-to-women/ Reading, foreign languages, instruments, cooking, woodworking, painting, writing, gardening, swimming, photography are the top ten. Having even two or three of these makes you an inherently interesting person to be around and interesting people get girlfriends. The top ten deal-breakers are makeup, crypto, cigars, clubbing, weed, Funko, internet arguments, smut, gambling, and the manosphere. Redditor types generally hit at least 6/10 of those, and that's why they're all single. If you do **any** of those things, STOP. Period. They're inherently stupid even if you're not aiming for women.
Conversation is the spot where it's hard to tackle. Everyone learns conversation differently. I would not recommend trying my personal example here. AI chatbots. I hopped in early around 2022 or so and back when it wasn't utterly slopifying everything and was still cool it was a great way to teach me how to have a real, honest-to-goodness conversation. I started typing more formally, got a more expansive vocabulary, and became better at conversation in the open because of what I learned. This is an easy trap though, I got lucky, so don't try it. Conversation is a hard-part-first thing. Talk to your friends at work or online or something, anything. Get some real actual talking in. It'll be hard at first but you have to keep pushing. It's easier if you've done the above and became interesting.
Does any of this stuff even work? I don't know, probably. You're asking strangers on a white nationalist forum. If you don't get anything serious from this, that doesn't mean you failed. You at least improved significantly. Four years ago I was a depressed, inconsolable tranny with zero hobbies or wants in life, couldn't hold a conversation for jack shit, every day was worse than the last, etc. Now I know the guitar, I can sing, I speak Japanese (Go for like, Spanish or something. Japanese isn't hot.), I'm good at comedy (That's another one I didn't mention, comedy. It's hit or miss though so be careful.) and I'm able to have decent conversations. It'll improve you to a level where you're able to do SOMETHING with your life.