Need advice from the chads of conpro. I work a job, have my own place but cannot get a gf.
Decent girls have never shown interest in me. Only 4/10s. Which means Im like a 5/10 in appearance. Im not physically deformed or too ugly. My main looks problems stem from fixable shit like acne, bad teeth, skinny fat body, etc.
I work a job, have a car, my own place, so im not too far gone. Im in my 20s.
Problem is that on top of being mid looks wise, I am an anti-social autistic motherfucker. No social media presence at all. Dont give a fuck about fashion trends. I just hate people and interacting with them. Only dudes that I interact with irl are those that are as autistic as I am. I literally cannot have a conversation with normies about mundane NPC shit. Talking with women is the worst thing I can possibly imagine.
I just want a warm female body next to me. How do I unfuck myself bros?
Beyond that, my main thing has always been that you should just pursue things you’re interested in, go take some classes on shit. Woodworking is great but the downside is it’s very male dominated. But if you have even like a slight interest in: learning how to make ceramics, learning about gardening and horticulture at your local arboretum or botanic garden, taking classes on graphic design at some local college adult ed program, finding a Maker Space which may have a ton of stuff like sewing, metal working, blacksmithing, glass cutting - those places have enough various things that there’s actually a decent mix of men and women who join (it will still be majority men but the ratios are more even than something like woodworking that’s like 95%+ male).
I think the mindset of “fuck it I’d rather just develop skills and if I find someone doing what I love then that’s probably best for me” didn’t come to me till after the hormone driven post-college years, so I get that it’s hard to be like “I want a WOMAN” and also be like “eh who gives a shit I’ll find someone if it’s meant to be”. But I do think that he solution is to continue to better yourself regardless of whether there’s some pussy at the end of it. Just better yourself in general, get into spaces you are interested in, and the odds of you finding someone who actually shares your interests goes way up. And obviously don’t be afraid to just let people in your life know you’re looking and if they have any nice young ladies in their orbit to see if you can find any shared things to do. And don’t make it all about pussy, just get to know someone, be the one making the decision, don’t forget that - that it’s YOU making the decision, because YOU are the one who will be leading so it’s YOUR call in the end.