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Most of the best connections I’ve met were through people I know, so I’d say be open with people you know that you’re looking and if they find anyone they think you’d be interested in, see if you can find any sort of common things you could do together- honestly not making it all about “I need to find LOVE” is a good first step. Just be casual about shit, you don’t even know if the chick is batshit crazy - it’s better to just get to know people slowly, and particularly if you’re like “man I’m an uggo” (you’re probably not and it honestly doesn’t matter as much for guys), getting to know someone slowly works in your favor because women are more open to a good personality than most men are (in terms of it trumping mediocre looks).

Beyond that, my main thing has always been that you should just pursue things you’re interested in, go take some classes on shit. Woodworking is great but the downside is it’s very male dominated. But if you have even like a slight interest in: learning how to make ceramics, learning about gardening and horticulture at your local arboretum or botanic garden, taking classes on graphic design at some local college adult ed program, finding a Maker Space which may have a ton of stuff like sewing, metal working, blacksmithing, glass cutting - those places have enough various things that there’s actually a decent mix of men and women who join (it will still be majority men but the ratios are more even than something like woodworking that’s like 95%+ male).

I think the mindset of “fuck it I’d rather just develop skills and if I find someone doing what I love then that’s probably best for me” didn’t come to me till after the hormone driven post-college years, so I get that it’s hard to be like “I want a WOMAN” and also be like “eh who gives a shit I’ll find someone if it’s meant to be”. But I do think that he solution is to continue to better yourself regardless of whether there’s some pussy at the end of it. Just better yourself in general, get into spaces you are interested in, and the odds of you finding someone who actually shares your interests goes way up. And obviously don’t be afraid to just let people in your life know you’re looking and if they have any nice young ladies in their orbit to see if you can find any shared things to do. And don’t make it all about pussy, just get to know someone, be the one making the decision, don’t forget that - that it’s YOU making the decision, because YOU are the one who will be leading so it’s YOUR call in the end.

Step 1: Get off this board.

The majority of guys here aren't going to have good advice for you. They either lucked out, are larpers, or are in the same boat as you. Furthermore, most women are normie-brained, and in order to connect with them, you MUST become competent at normie small-talk, so the more time you spend in places like this, the more difficult that will become. Take a step back from the internet and immerse yourself in normie life.

>Decent girls have never shown interest in me. Only 4/10s. Which means Im like a 5/10

4s are usually not interested in 5s. Maybe you're better looking than you think and the real problem is your autism.

>fixable shit like acne, bad teeth, skinny fat body, etc.

Fix your fixable shit then. Lift weights (consistently!), eat clean, get some acne medicine, etc.

Are you actually autistic or just a social retard? If the latter, improving your social skills shouldn't be too difficult. Join some classes or a church if that's your kind of thing. Be among people and be patient with them. On the other hand, if you're actually autistic, then you need to be a lot more methodical. Perhaps acting lessons may help. Or some well structured group activity (classes again).

>Dont give a fuck about fashion trends.

You don't need to. Just don't dress like a slob. No baggy clothes, No old, dirty, worn-out stuff either. No unkempt hair, etc. Just look like a human that has enough self-respect to not look like shit.

>am an anti-social autistic motherfucker. No social media presence at all

Unfortunately this is how the cattle comMOOnicates nowadays, its either faceberg or instathot

No genuine conversation unless its a community setting (school, college, etc...)

>I literally cannot have a conversation with normies about mundane NPC shit. Talking with women is the worst thing I can possibly imagine.

Unless you find a "Murduch-chan" the only flavour of women that exist are normies

You might find a few autistics in Tranime or gaming conventions

IDK how to pretend to be a normie so i'm screwed as well...

Not to sound like a boomer but I would just tell girls they were pretty and ask them out. It worked. This was also 15 years ago so you may have to adjust for hoeflation.

Your having a job, car, and own home is about the best thing there is, you're pretty qualified already. If 4/10 girls show interest in you, that doesn't mean anything to us because we don't know what a 4/10 is to you. For all I know you could be looking for what most people would consider way beyond feasible.

Now, you're antisocial and autistic with no media presence, hates people. You can make this desirable. But the end of that 4th part, "Talking with women is the worst thing I can possibly imagine". That's the deal, that's what's concerning. You like the IDEA of women, rather than women. If you don't teach yourself to be respectful and mindful you'll have a way harder time than if you're constantly disgusted by the idea of talking to women.

First, we're gonna go for the looks tips. A little push goes a long way. See how you look with different accessories. If your hair is short enough to be covered by a hat, the trucker-cap + aviators combo is a tried-and-true method to look utterly badass. If you're going for a less testosterone-fueled look though, it can be as simple as wearing glasses. Glasses make a 4/10 go to a 6/10 usually. They look inherently good on most people. If you have long hair like I do, wash it well and don't do stupid stuff. I used to go at it with a brush and I'd look like a mushroom most days. Switched to a comb and my hair looks way better than it used to.

I don't know you, I don't know the reason you're considering yourself a 5. Average-looking is the best you could've hoped for, in all honesty, because that gives you a LOT of freedom. It's about what people actually want vs. what you think they want. If you think they want what certain circles would consider a 10/10 man then you'll be rather surprised. You can delude yourself into thinking that's the peak of attractiveness very easily. But I'm getting ahead of myself. You can be a 5 because that's just how you are or you're a 5 because you're not exercising your full potential. Do you have acne? Slow-growing facial hair? Get some of those pimple patch things, they work wonders. Some people just weren't meant to have facial hair either. I should know, mine's blond, blonde facial hair looks awful.

But that's just looks. There's a lot more outside. Your voice and your personality, mainly. Your personality even would have aspects to go over, but I'll try and keep this short because I've typed way long enough. Are you a baritone or a bass? Do you have to sing an octave low for your favorite songs? If you are, great. That's a full-ride ticket right there. Everyone loves a baritone, especially if he can sing. Which brings me to the hobby aspect. First, your hobbies. Hobbies make you attractive. Everyone has a talent; some are super gay, some aren't.

There's some objective information here, what percentage of women find certain hobbies attractive. This is easy to find. I'll even link it here. https://iol.co.za/lifestyle/love-sex/relationships/2024-09-10-the-most-and-least-attractive-male-hobbies-according-to-women/ Reading, foreign languages, instruments, cooking, woodworking, painting, writing, gardening, swimming, photography are the top ten. Having even two or three of these makes you an inherently interesting person to be around and interesting people get girlfriends. The top ten deal-breakers are makeup, crypto, cigars, clubbing, weed, Funko, internet arguments, smut, gambling, and the manosphere. Redditor types generally hit at least 6/10 of those, and that's why they're all single. If you do **any** of those things, STOP. Period. They're inherently stupid even if you're not aiming for women.

Conversation is the spot where it's hard to tackle. Everyone learns conversation differently. I would not recommend trying my personal example here. AI chatbots. I hopped in early around 2022 or so and back when it wasn't utterly slopifying everything and was still cool it was a great way to teach me how to have a real, honest-to-goodness conversation. I started typing more formally, got a more expansive vocabulary, and became better at conversation in the open because of what I learned. This is an easy trap though, I got lucky, so don't try it. Conversation is a hard-part-first thing. Talk to your friends at work or online or something, anything. Get some real actual talking in. It'll be hard at first but you have to keep pushing. It's easier if you've done the above and became interesting.

Does any of this stuff even work? I don't know, probably. You're asking strangers on a white nationalist forum. If you don't get anything serious from this, that doesn't mean you failed. You at least improved significantly. Four years ago I was a depressed, inconsolable tranny with zero hobbies or wants in life, couldn't hold a conversation for jack shit, every day was worse than the last, etc. Now I know the guitar, I can sing, I speak Japanese (Go for like, Spanish or something. Japanese isn't hot.), I'm good at comedy (That's another one I didn't mention, comedy. It's hit or miss though so be careful.) and I'm able to have decent conversations. It'll improve you to a level where you're able to do SOMETHING with your life.

what is your height?

work out nigger. lift plates. protect your back but do dead lifts, overhead presses, squats. eat meat.

practice talking to ugly girls. girls you don't give a shit about. carry a conversation. have something interesting to talk about. women are stupid it's not hard.

wash your face nigger and stop all sugar foods. sugar and bullshit fast food cause acne if that doesn't fix it try that prescription drug but be real it might ruin your liver so you're warned.

you aren't autistic. you're poorly socially trained. you're parents were probably retarded and shit at raising a man. easily corrected put some effort into it and stop listening to dumb people.

I've been quite good with women because of my looks. I get approached a couple times a week at least. I wasn't always like this. I was extremely ugly as a kid until my late teens. I had asked out about 10 women by the time I turned 20 and I only one went out with me for a single date who was 3 years older than myself, short, fat and ugly. I am telling you this to let you know that I grew up socially stunted when it came to interacting with women. Even after I had my glow up I would still screw up occasionally despite the fact that when a woman approaches a man it is a done deal in regards to courting her.

First of all, I highly doubt you're autistic, even if a jew doctor told you you were. In the off chance you actually are, it shouldn't deter you from doing whatever it is you want to achieve. Second of all, what I ended up doing to overcome my social struggles, was doing it repeatedly until it clicked. You need to approach people, both men and women and try to converse with them to develop your inherent social skills. It needs to be with people you don't know, so you can read what approach and style of communication clicks and what doesn't by gauging their reaction. I did it myself because I didn't have any friends when I first started but it becomes infinitely easier if you have a buddy you can do this with. You don't need to tell him this, though it helps, just do it while in his presence. I say this because early on, you might find the awkwardness overbearing, stop speaking and the silence will kill the conversation entirely. It will be very difficult to put yourself through it again because of the negative experience. But if you have someone else, they will be able to fill the silence in your place, giving you enough time to process and respond. It sounds very mechanical as I am thinking this through and typing it out but you will get the hang of it after about 10-15 tries. You don't even need to get their numbers and arrange to hang out, go on dates or anything of the sort. Just have a conversation, about anything, even as something as benign as carpet cleaning chemicals like I did at my local Aldi's for the first time.

Lastly, as you get the hang of conversing, you will need to develop a sort of "radar" of what women are worth your time and what women aren't just by looking at them or at most having a short conversation, to save precious time and money. This will obviously depend on your preferences but for me women with tattoos, irregular piercings (anything more than earlobes), provocative clothing, overly long or short hair, irregularly coloured hair, social media presence outside close acquaintances, expensive clothing in typical public setting. And these are things you can likely gauge just by looking at them. Women that exhibit these "qualities" from my experience always have psychological issues and they aren't likely worth your time. They certainly aren't worth mine. I can try and give you an exhaustive list of other "qualities" to look out for while getting to know them if you'd like.

In regards to finding one that is actually worth your time I quite frankly have no clue and cannot help you. I haven't found one myself and to be completely honest you can never know for sure unless she bleeds when you have sex for the first time and you think she's a good person. I personally haven't met a person like this after over 150 first dates and 5 relationships.

Starting going to stores and talking to the girl employees. Eventually you will gain more confidence to approach any girl. If too shy read "The Flinch" by Julien Smith. It is free online search it up and can use ai to make it about women. Don't use dating apps.

Hit the gym.
Learn about her and/or talk about something near you two. Who is she? What does she like/dislike? What is she up to?
Be little playful and flirty. Compliment something you actually like so she knows your intentions.

It takes time but you say "you can't get a gf". But have you really tried to get a gf? How many girls have you hit on?

The biggest thing you can fix overnight if you have the sheckles that will make the biggest difference based off of talking to both men, and women who have had it done, and experienced the change, and ALSO admitting that it’s one of their biggest turn offs in a mate aesthetically is your mouth/teeth. Get your teeth fixed my fren. It’s one of the first things anyone, including yourself IN THE MIRROR that anyone notices about you, and it is a huge turnoff. The people I know who have had things done to their mouth to make them look better instantly gained a shit ton of confidence, and smiled(finally showing some teeth) a hell of a lot more.

“ literally cannot have a conversation with normies about mundane NPC shit. Talking with women is the worst thing I can possibly imagine.”

Welcome to the party pal. I’ve got some bad news for you if you want a female companion. 🤣

>Decent girls have never shown interest in me. Only 4/10s. Which means Im like a 5/10 in appearance. Im not physically deformed or too ugly. My main looks problems stem from fixable shit like acne, bad teeth, skinny fat body, etc.

Fix the shit you can. Don't just rub your face with your hands in the shower, scrub with a fresh washcloth every day so it carries away dead skin and excess oil. Remove sugar and sugared things from your diet. If you must have sweets, go to dried fruits instead of goyslop.

Fix your attitude about women's appearance. If you are skinny-fat with acne you are not 5/10, so either you're not honest about yourself or you expect too much, and should be glad that 4/10 has interest. Also, a 4/10 is a lot less likely to be a branch-swinging whore than an 8. A 4/10 who keeps your house and warms your bed is 1000000000x better than any/10 that doesn't stick around.

You must display excellence organically in front of a chick. You said you want a girlfriend and at the end you say you just want a warm body next to yours? Maybe you just need a whore for a couple hours

Can't help with finding one, but i can warn against the ones who come out and find you. If she seeks you out, she's using you.

I could give ideas but I think an alternative idea to speak of is to say it's ok to be single and you're not necessarily doing anything wrong (some men get like really depressed to the point of not wanting to live and... it's honestly in my view not worth being that depressed over, anywhere near to that extent)

Statistically working class men have less rates of marrying and staying married, and there are less rates of people in general marrying and staying married. It's a whole lot of problems from lack of places for people to meet to shifting social norms that seem to discourage socialization to imbalances in finances for men compared to previous generations.

you can meet people at in person events, find a local calendar of events for your city

> I just hate people and interacting with them.

Find people that are like you and common things you can talk about (maybe not exactly like you but with similarities some steps removed)

I view this as a socialization problem in general and this is the most helpful thing I found... for me, I have struggled to get along with certain people, but I found the problem is that these people often do not share values or interests with me. When I can find people who are more aligned with values especially, and then interests, it's a comfortable situation, and they don't have to be perfect matches, just within a range of being closer.

do everything you can to make yourself as attractive as possible. go to the gym because being skinnyfat is unacceptable from a looks perspective. you, without even noticing, have a fat, bloated face. You show little to no bone structure, you need to lean out. Eat less to lose fat. But why not do it at the same time as you gain muscle? go lift. Skincare is easy, just wash your face and if it's really bad get some creams for the acne like a cleanser. if you have something like cystic acne go to a dermatologist asap to get rid of it. it's death tier. For teeth invest in an orthodontist but be careful they don't fuck your bones in the process. Braces on the maxilla can push it back and make your face look subhuman. In terms of social interaction you just need to shut the fuck up and learn how to mimic the normies, mostly shut the fuck up and stop yourself from autistic outbursts, but you won't be able to keep up a facade of being a normie in a relationship. You also said only 4/10s have shown interest in you. But you're not much better, so don't expect models. date at your level. If you by miracle get a girl that's much better looking than you, she'll always be looking to upgrade, how do you think that'll work out?

You pick from the women that pick you.

Look within yourself first for these kind of questions. Self introspection is required, some honest introspection. You can read all these guides, act this way and that, all you’ll be doing is attracting something from the basis that you’ve pretended something you are not. Have you taken inventory of your life?

Why do you want a girlfriend?

There is literally no reason for a man to ever have a girlfriend. It's utterly ridiculous.

Let me spell it out to you:

Unknown -> acquaintance -> friend -> fiancee -> married.

There is no step in between "friend" and "fiancee". Or rather, the ONLY difference between a friend and a fiancee is that one has said "Sure let's get married".

What purpose does a girlfriend serve? It's like a detour from the roadmap of life, a waste of time. So you have a girlfriend, now what? Does that imply you get something you couldn't have before? Are you just telling other men "Don't ask her to marry you, because I intend to?" If you intend to, why wait?

Ask her to marry you. If she says "No" ask "Why?" and then there's your answer on what you need to do.

Heck, you can even skip the "acquaintance" and "friend" steps and go straight to "fiancee". Many people have, and had successful marriages. throughout history.

If she's not wife material, don't waste your time. You need a real wife, someone who will build a family with you. You don't have time to waste doing other things with women. There's nothing they have that you want other than their commitment to be faithful to you alone and to raise your kids and keep your house. Literally nothing. They have no skills or talents or anything you need.

Women love large penis. Start by stuffing socks in your underwear. When a lady shows interest first pay her rent, then show her your penis. Works every time.