Read my previous post for context.
Things didn't work out. I tried to take all your advice in consideration and it turns out she wasn't as honest as I thought. That's alright, I needed to find out if it was worth it and it wasn't. But obviously the principal problem is that I'm not in the condition to look for a serious woman, because I need to not be a sex addict first.
I had to work against myself to push her away when I realized I was wasting my time because I really liked having sex with her, and that shit occupies a lot of space in my head. And sometimes I feel like the only thing I want is more sex. This is obviously not good and it distracts me a lot from important stuff and I just can't seem to stop thinking about that. I feel like I'm broken at this point, and I don't really have the willpower to just push through I think.
Now I want to find a woman just cause I want sex but then it will be the same shit all over again and I don't want that. Any advice? How do I stop thinking about sex?
I'm assuming that it's easy for you to get laid, so there isn't a lot of investment required for the dopamine, which just magnifies the addiction. Cold turkey is going to be the fastest way to correct the imbalance, but you can do other things like weaning or getting it from some other source like nicotine patches for smokers. Video games is probably honestly the best bet since most other things that would be able to compete with what you got going on right now are going to be unhealthy, not that video games aren't, they just won't ruin your life as fast as gambling or drugs.
On the bright side, our brains respond differently to sex than women's brains do. Your brain likely isn't physically remapped to have replaced the natural desire for long-term monogamous relationships with short-term ones which is basically irreversible.
I'd start investing in what you want--a healthy relationship. Which means you need to invest in yourself. You should figure out what fucked up shit you have going on, because just like how you don't want a fucked up woman, no serious woman is going to want a fucked up man. I'd start with figuring out what fucked up attachment style you have since you obviously have one (most do these days). Then you work on that, and the new perspective will almost certainly lead you to realize other problems that you were blind to and it's like a domino effect if you stay intentional about it. Stop watching porn if you are, you probably objectify women which is only unfixable if you're an actual psychopath with no capacity for empathy.
You also need to understand that you're almost certainly going to fuck up and you need to be able to forgive yourself for that along the way without saying fuck it, or letting it get to the point where you've just fallen back into it and you're lying to yourself about trying by "forgiving yourself" every day. It's a tightrope act, good luck.
And stop poisoning the wells like a fucking kike during the black plague. We all have to live in the same society and you're making these retarded women permanently unwifeable. The girls will probably sleep with someone else, sure, but you don't have to be a part of it.
I know talk of "trauma" in the mental health sense tends to live in the realm of leftism, while over here we talk more about just toughing through it, give it to God, etc. Those things are well and good, but I strongly believe based on my lived experience that most people today have been seriously fucked up in their developmental years in some way. This is *invariably* the case for anyone who suffers from any form of sexual dysfunction (which it sounds like you do.)
And if the damage runs deeply enough, you won't fully resolve it if you don't approach it with intellectual honesty on therapeutic grounds (even if you are your own therapist.) Otherwise you won't actually be able to integrate it and anchor to the world in a healthy manner, no matter how hard you try to mask it in a can-do attitude, prayer, or stoicism.
right before the sentence you had a question about, there is this extremely pertinent and insightful piece of advice. take it to heart and follow it.
attachment style - I believe he means what attaches you to damaging women. men release vasopressin after sex which leads to chemically-induced feelings of attachment and "love", and this is most likely your blind spot. realize the drugs your brain-glands are dumping into your brain and try not to be a dumb dumb about it.
For me, I have an avoidant attachment style. I probably will for the rest of my life, but now that I know what causes it and what emotions I feel in response to certain stimulus, I can identify the emotions and not let them influence my decisions like I did with past relationships before I was able to understand what was going on. This is essentially the core principle of emotional intelligence. If you can use the logical part of your brain to identify the emotion you are feeling along with its source and the reason you are feeling it, you can control it instead of being controlled by it.
https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/social-connection/attachment-and-adult-relationships
I just think this is a good place to start because it helped me realize that you need to look farther back to your childhood to find the root of some of your problems. Many ingrained detrimental behaviors or habits come from fucked up shit that happened in your childhood. They are basically unhealthy coping mechanisms because you didn't get what you needed when you were developing.