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3 months ago3 points(+0/-0/+3Score on mirror)2 children
“Trying” is the problem. What I mean is you can’t come off as needy, and desperate at all. If you’re attractive, you can of course get away with more of this, than if you’re not attractive, but it still has a way of chasing them away eventually. The best advice I’ve ever heard, and kind of figured out myself is to treat women as if they’re guy you’re just shooting the shit with, and we where it goes. Also, remember that the overwhelming majority of them look completely different without the makeup, and other enhancers on. Last but not least, don’t worry about the outcome when approaching, and dealing with a women you’re attracted to.
I am no expert by any means, but the few experiences I’ve given a chance with women I was initially attracted to had most if not all of the above employed. Another big one is you just have to get out of your head. I have a serious issue with this. You have to learn to retard max, and throw all cation to the wind sometimes. It’s difficult, especially as a type A personality.
3 months ago1 point(+0/-0/+1Score on mirror)1 child
Don't waste your time, that handshake's just here to spread demoralization. New accounts coming here from the mgtow board are always like that, give him all the advice and encouragement you want and he'll keep replying with variations of "Woe is me, life is hell".
Seems that way. I’m not saying it’s not hard out there, but I’m not the best looking guy out there, and I still have positive interactions with all kinds of people including young attractive women, and can even make them smile and laugh regularly. Does it mean I can get them in bed if I wanted to, I don’t know, maybe not, but if that’s all you’re existing for, you’re doing it all wrong IMHO.
3 months ago2 points(+0/-0/+2Score on mirror)1 child
Do you leave the house? If you feel like you actively have to look for women, that’s the wrong approach and super needy. I just talk to them when I see them. If they engage back, I just talk to them about whatever as if I’m talking to another dude. I just had a great convo with one at my local drugstore right before Mother’s Day when I grabbed a card. She was definitely receptive, and at least polite. I made her laugh and smile a few times. It’s not that difficult. I might have even been able to get her contact info to move on, but I’m dealing with some other bullshit right now, and don’t feel like doing the whole early dating bullshit at the moment. It’s more work than I’m willing, and able to put it at the moment. Hoping to have everything back to normal and more stable before the summer is over.
3 months ago1 point(+0/-0/+1Score on mirror)2 children
You just need to not be a fucking demon. Even if you’re not all that conventionally handsome, wear somewhat stylish clothes that fit and figure out what hair and facial hair works for you.
You can’t change your face, but you can present it and yourself better. Being charming does the rest, and that is absolutely something you can change, develop, and get better at. I’m not Chad (yet), but I’ve recently changed up my style and appearance as I described above, dropped weight (still not quite at my goal), and now I have a 100% success rate of talking to girls and getting them interested. It’s all just been a game for me, though, since I’m married anyway, but I wanted to see if I could do it.
This is the way to look at it. Every interaction doesn’t have to be about getting laid. Just not coming off as creepy and making them smile or laugh just once is a win nowadays.
I am no expert by any means, but the few experiences I’ve given a chance with women I was initially attracted to had most if not all of the above employed. Another big one is you just have to get out of your head. I have a serious issue with this. You have to learn to retard max, and throw all cation to the wind sometimes. It’s difficult, especially as a type A personality.
You can’t change your face, but you can present it and yourself better. Being charming does the rest, and that is absolutely something you can change, develop, and get better at. I’m not Chad (yet), but I’ve recently changed up my style and appearance as I described above, dropped weight (still not quite at my goal), and now I have a 100% success rate of talking to girls and getting them interested. It’s all just been a game for me, though, since I’m married anyway, but I wanted to see if I could do it.