I read a great take on why a woman might feel the way you feel, and it’s because in our culture in our movies in our ads women are sexualized and so when you see women you automatically are programmed to feel sexual arousal while not having the same wiring for men who are nearly never portrayed as objects of sexual desire. As a woman you should go to the most primeval point of your sexual desire—penetration and work out from there. If you want penetration now think just one step out—what will penetrate you, an erect penis of course. Slowly work your way out from there. Imagine a man WHO is No simp for you and what he as an extension of what you want could do. You will return to the natural order.