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Captain_Raamsley on scored.co
2 months ago3 points(+0/-0/+3Score on mirror)1 child
Are you certain that you were not assaulted as a child? My brother was raped at the age of 4 and it was extremely psychologically repressed, to the point that he didnt even remember it until he was 24, already married with kids, and it caused him much distress and many episodes. It definitely had an impact on him growing up, affecting his behavior, mood, attitude, outlook, desires etc.
You should look into this possibility that you were abused at a very young age, to the point that you don't consciously remember it but it still has effects subconsciously.
I'm definitely not saying this is 100% the answer. It's also completely possible that even if that did happen, it's not the primary or even a contributing factor. I just advise that you don't rule anything out yet.
Ask your parents. Ask God. Ask for help from a priest or other "spiritual father". Christians are generally going to be the only people of any help to you. Generally.
Also, if you go ahead and date this man, and it does not seem to work out for you but the love is still there, you should try just telling him about all these feelings. It may very well be that this problem is a just a bump in your road that requires a man to help get over or around. Maybe. Maybe not.
If I may ask, how old are you? You mentioned that you believed you were too young to be a mother. I'd like to point out that, biologically, humans are designed to start having families at about 16-20. The state of the world has pushed that back about 10 years, and it has had extremely negative effects. So, I dont want to be crude, but depending on your age, your mind and body might just not know what go do or how to feel because you haven't had sex with a man (I assume..) by that age range.
You should look into this possibility that you were abused at a very young age, to the point that you don't consciously remember it but it still has effects subconsciously.
I'm definitely not saying this is 100% the answer. It's also completely possible that even if that did happen, it's not the primary or even a contributing factor. I just advise that you don't rule anything out yet.
Ask your parents. Ask God. Ask for help from a priest or other "spiritual father". Christians are generally going to be the only people of any help to you. Generally.
Also, if you go ahead and date this man, and it does not seem to work out for you but the love is still there, you should try just telling him about all these feelings. It may very well be that this problem is a just a bump in your road that requires a man to help get over or around. Maybe. Maybe not.
God Bless, I'll be praying for you.
Marriage is basically the relationship you have with him set on a higher level, plus intimacy. There is a good chance that it's an "acquired taste."