Understand that God is, by definition, Good and the absolute best thing you can do for yourself is to give yourself over to God's path for you, even if it brings pain (and it certainly will).
If you love yourself, you must want the best for yourself, which means surrendering to God.
Remember that you, as a child of Eve, are capable of Good and evil. Submitting to God's will is not to become a puppet, but to let go of everything about yourself except what is Good. It is still your will, but it is the absolute best of what you could be.
Every mass starts the same, though. Usually the priest/celebrant (especially if Jesuit) reminds the congregation that we, as only human, are weak and are in constant need of God's help.
# *PENITENTIAL ACT*
"You were sent to heal the contrite of heart. Lord have mercy."
*Lord have Mercy*
"You came to call sinners. Christ have mercy."
*Christ have Mercy*
"You are seated at the right hand of the Father to intercede for us. Lord have Mercy."
*Lord have Mercy*
"May our Lord have Mercy on us, forgive us our sins and bring us to everlasting life."
*Amen*
Yes ... deny narcissism, vanity, pride ... all that ... those are forms of self-love that have replaced God, much like the idols that Solomon fell to. Study Samuel, Chronicles and Kings in the OT and pay attention to Saul. He's the classic narcissist. There's even a verse that points it out about him caring more of what others thought of him and it becoming his driving force.
But again, going back to the weakness of our humanity, it is on display on how the Roman soldiers treated Jesus during the mocking and crowning of thorns. They would give Him a reed (or it could be interpreted as a staff) to signify His rulership and then take it away and beat Him with it while spitting on Him.
This is symbolic of what we do to Jesus in our daily lives with the constant battle of : "I will do Your will"/"I want what I want and I will take it."
Each one of us has our own personal battles and must come to Christ on his own. Just remember that the Love of the Father is a perfect Love, as all things from the Father are and Jesus was sent to provide the pathway to that Love. A big part of that pathway is confession as seen in the conversation between Nathan and David after David basically rapes Bathsheba and has Uriah murdered. David confesses with a contrite heart and is forgiven ("The LORD has put away your sin, you shall not die.") ... but forgiveness doesn't mean he will escape the justice that follows disobedience.
But ... self-love is OK. Just don't let it replace God.
Prayer. Lots of prayer. Constant prayer. Self reflection and a willingness to repent.
Epiphany is its reward.
If you love yourself, you must want the best for yourself, which means surrendering to God.
Remember that you, as a child of Eve, are capable of Good and evil. Submitting to God's will is not to become a puppet, but to let go of everything about yourself except what is Good. It is still your will, but it is the absolute best of what you could be.
# *PENITENTIAL ACT*
"You were sent to heal the contrite of heart. Lord have mercy."
*Lord have Mercy*
"You came to call sinners. Christ have mercy."
*Christ have Mercy*
"You are seated at the right hand of the Father to intercede for us. Lord have Mercy."
*Lord have Mercy*
"May our Lord have Mercy on us, forgive us our sins and bring us to everlasting life."
*Amen*
Yes ... deny narcissism, vanity, pride ... all that ... those are forms of self-love that have replaced God, much like the idols that Solomon fell to. Study Samuel, Chronicles and Kings in the OT and pay attention to Saul. He's the classic narcissist. There's even a verse that points it out about him caring more of what others thought of him and it becoming his driving force.
But again, going back to the weakness of our humanity, it is on display on how the Roman soldiers treated Jesus during the mocking and crowning of thorns. They would give Him a reed (or it could be interpreted as a staff) to signify His rulership and then take it away and beat Him with it while spitting on Him.
This is symbolic of what we do to Jesus in our daily lives with the constant battle of : "I will do Your will"/"I want what I want and I will take it."
Each one of us has our own personal battles and must come to Christ on his own. Just remember that the Love of the Father is a perfect Love, as all things from the Father are and Jesus was sent to provide the pathway to that Love. A big part of that pathway is confession as seen in the conversation between Nathan and David after David basically rapes Bathsheba and has Uriah murdered. David confesses with a contrite heart and is forgiven ("The LORD has put away your sin, you shall not die.") ... but forgiveness doesn't mean he will escape the justice that follows disobedience.
But ... self-love is OK. Just don't let it replace God.
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