Ok so you have 2 options:
Option 1: Fat "aspiring rapper" who works at amazon moving boxes. Has no skills at all. Dresses like a 15 year old wigger. Hobbies: smoking weed, watching tictok, sleeping. Lives with a fat lesbian in 2 bedroom apartment.
Option 2: Buff self employed artist. Has 5 cars. Knows plumbing, carpentry, HVAC. Grew up on a farm. Well rounded character, charismatic, interesting, excellent date ideas. Lives on 40 acres of land backed up to 500+ acres of public land.
Now imagine picking option 1. Like for fucks sake I am getting QUITE disenchanted with having a beating heart.
The reason why guy#1 is picked over guy#2 is because guy#1 is 6 foot 2 and guy#2 is a try hard 5 foot 7 balding meatball manlet. There's your reason OP
And, well, it also leads people to punch well above their own weight and desire someone who is "way out of their league". I get it, being ugly doesn't make someone who looks like Henry Cavill or conversely Grace Kelly look any less attractive. But you have to be realistic or you drive yourself insane which is what we see with feminists, mgtow fags, incels, femcels, whatever the fuck these groups of people are called.
There's a chance for people who aren't attractive. Like Joseph goebbels, who obviously had a wife and wasnt attractive at all. You just really have to play your cards right, be charismatic, dress appropriately, and bring something to the table. And don't expect someone who's an absolute stunner unless you luck the fuck out because they by no fault of their own are going to be looking almost entirely at people who are at their level.