If you're like me you will only have one or two friends in real life you can actually go full mask off with. This is fine, men don't need some big support group. I dont discuss anything deep with the neighbors that live around me, we just talk about the weather and help each other when we needed. The kind of things men should look for in a friend is someone who will help you move a couch, not someone to spill your guts to.
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Familiarity breeds contempt.
What your experiencing isn't that unusual.
The degree of what you're experiencing could possibly be a bit whack.
I mean, on a first date do you sperg out about Hitler?
There's a certain way to approach things, but generally....average person absolutely doesn't care about politics or any of the stuff you see here.
What your experiencing isn't that unusual.
The degree of what you're experiencing could possibly be a bit whack.
I mean, on a first date do you sperg out about Hitler?
There's a certain way to approach things, but generally....average person absolutely doesn't care about politics or any of the stuff you see here.
It’s better to live your life genuinely free, yourself, than put a layer of lies trying to please others.
People like me, then I start telling human (psychological/philosophical) truths and they like me more, then I start telling them historical truth and they dislike me.
Friends want their egos and worldviews validated. They want to feel good, not be real.
Friends want their egos and worldviews validated. They want to feel good, not be real.
I'm going to echo u/weematanyeh but I want to add something too:
Unless you all have some kind of bond that surpasses minor character flaws, you're not going to stick together. Just keep that in mind.
As for the form of the bond -- proximity and land ownership can be very strong bonds. I can forgive my neighbors for a lot of things knowing that they live right next to me and I need to count on them for emergencies, and they do the same. In the rare case my neighbor isn't such a person, well, I won't be calling on them for help when the time comes.
Unless you all have some kind of bond that surpasses minor character flaws, you're not going to stick together. Just keep that in mind.
As for the form of the bond -- proximity and land ownership can be very strong bonds. I can forgive my neighbors for a lot of things knowing that they live right next to me and I need to count on them for emergencies, and they do the same. In the rare case my neighbor isn't such a person, well, I won't be calling on them for help when the time comes.
You should study some game theory.
One of the important lessons is that people ALWAYS treat people better when they expect a long future with them, and worse when they'll never see each other again.
Surely you don't think people in the past were any different about this. In the 1800s, you couldn't afford to piss off the one cobbler in town, or the guy with the best fruit. There were real consequences.
Of course, there was also a shared worldview with the locals. In modern day, that can only be achieved through realistic views.
One of the important lessons is that people ALWAYS treat people better when they expect a long future with them, and worse when they'll never see each other again.
Surely you don't think people in the past were any different about this. In the 1800s, you couldn't afford to piss off the one cobbler in town, or the guy with the best fruit. There were real consequences.
Of course, there was also a shared worldview with the locals. In modern day, that can only be achieved through realistic views.
"The cobbler in town" -- the proximity to the town plus the difficulty in establishing a life in a new town -- that's the bond you share with the cobbler and the other townsfolk. You had to tolerate each other in your own self-interest, at the very least. Bonus points because if you make even small investments over time, small affordances or sacrifices, people remember that and over time you and your family builds a reputation of honor and trust.
In the modern age, people move all the time, and no one knows who their neighbors are. There is no bond. Hence things like freemasons or lions club filling a gap in the modern world, but those are gone now. All we have left is church and even then, so many churches never form a bond between the membership. I can spend my whole life living in one area being kind to my neighbors only to find my neighbors are all gone and there are complete strangers living in their houses who don't know me from Adam.
In the modern age, people move all the time, and no one knows who their neighbors are. There is no bond. Hence things like freemasons or lions club filling a gap in the modern world, but those are gone now. All we have left is church and even then, so many churches never form a bond between the membership. I can spend my whole life living in one area being kind to my neighbors only to find my neighbors are all gone and there are complete strangers living in their houses who don't know me from Adam.
Sounds like INTJ problems
Ibgot ESTP when Ibtook the test for the forst time
Well I’m sorry to hear that, I’ve had similar thoughts about myself. I guess my only advice is it’s probably better to just become useful in things so that you don’t have to feel like you’re dependent on other peoples emotional states for your own self worth. At least you can raise yourself up in a sort of manly technical aspect so that you don’t care what people think. There are different ways to bring value than just being Mr personality.
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